There are times considered the turning points in everyone’s life and one of them is arriving at the decision to propose to someone to spend the rest of your life with or accept such a proposal. It comes with its own pressure and headache; am I really sure about this lady? Do I really want to marry this guy or do I just want the ring from a bended knee?
Proposing or being proposed to in private is an intimate moment between the couple; there is no third person around to influence the answer to that important question. When the answer is an excited yes, then the couple can then share the good news with family and friends. When due to a reason or the other, it’s a no or not right now, give me some time, then at least the awkward moment can be contained better than in front of expectant onlookers. No one needs to know an almost-happy moment.
For everyone else, nothing happened.
For some, dating one person means dating the family as well. Time isn’t spent with the lover alone; one gets involved with family outings and gatherings and gets to hang out with the sister and call on the brother for a favor, it goes on. So in such a scenario, it’s only natural that the official proposal happens in front of them. The family and friends might even help the guy with the surprise event.
But for those couples who keep family involvement to the minimal level, they might prefer to share that special moment by themselves before sharing it with others. Either way, it is an exciting moment for both persons. Would one be more memorable than the other? Perhaps but it all depends on how much effort the proposer put in to make it so.
But I would be quick to add that, for one to decide to propose in front of family and friends, he should be absolutely sure that the partner would be pleasantly surprised and say yes or else, he stands to ruin the night for everyone present.
Personally, I don’t know what I’d rather choose. Either would be great if it is coming from the person I really want to spend the rest of my life with. Both has its perks that would be nice to experience.
What about you? Would you propose to your girlfriend in private or in front of others? Would you want to have an audience when he goes on one knee or do you prefer a more intimate moment? Kindly share your thoughts! Thanks for reading.
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every time i see a public proposal i go like “i would so run off and let dude look on” and well, i wonder why u asking for my hand has to be done at a mall or festival as if when u first asked me out, u did it in public . My brother be consistent. u asked me to be you girl in private do the same for wife. u can maybe do it over dinner for 2. Let me be the one telling my friends about the day not my friends or even the public posting it on social media. as if i wanted to post it.
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Haha… I love the ‘dude be consistent’ part. And you have have a point. Public proposals could sometimes be a little too dramatic, right? Thanks for sharing your thoughts and have a great week!
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I would really really want it not so public. Maybe a few close friends or families to capture that precious moment for us😁 Otherwise, I wouldn’t mind a private moment
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Nice! Thanks for adding your thoughts, Debs☺
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Is somebody planning to get married 😊😊
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Haha
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Im wishy washy with this subject! I would love my CLOSE friends and family there for the moment but also would be fine alone and getting that moment to call and pop the good news! I think its great either way!
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I agree!
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I’ll rather I be proposed to in private. The pressure to have this extravagant, special, creative proposal is a task I wouldn’t want to put my man through. I like words, so a few thoughtful words in private will make me happy!
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Awww…. Ain’t that sweet? 😆
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I was glad my husband proposed privately (other than my best friend who was hiding to take pictures). We had been dating for 4 years and we knew we wanted to get married, but I still just liked having the freedom to be alone and not worry about bystanders.
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I would much rather have it happen in private! If it happened in front of people my focus would be on them and how self-conscious I was feeling rather than just being excited. That’s just me though. I’ve watched enough flash mob proposals on youtube to know other people prefer the opposite!
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That’s true. Thanks for joining in with your thoughts, Quinn!
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Before my husband and I were engaged I was very clear to him that I am a private person and for me, a proposal was an intimate and emotional moment to be held just between the two of us. He has a big family and I was worried he would want to pop the question in front of them – just not my style!
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Lol… I see. You must have been glad he didn’t do it on front of them. 😊
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I would definitely prefer a private proposal, myself. Regardless, couples should talk about marriage before the official engagement so that they actually know 1) whether they want to get married in the first place and 2) whether they’d prefer a public or private proposal. This doesn’t sound as romantic, but nobody wants to feel forced into accepting because people are watching them.
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I agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Elizabeth ☺
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Reblogged this on gracelarbi and commented:
“Personally, I don’t know what I’d rather choose. Either would be great if it is coming from the person I really want to spend the rest of my life with. Both has its perks that would be nice to experience.” Indeed.!
Mine was a surprise alright because I wasn’t expecting a proposal in the first place….but the atmosphere was serene and lovey-dovey; and it was just the two of us and later we shared with family and friends. Well four years down the line we tied the knot as planned by God’s grace!
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We thank God for your life, Grace! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for reblogging.
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in private, on the beach, during sunset.
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Intimate 😍
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Ive actually actually had both over the last 13 years and they each had their good points. In front of people was cool because my whole family and closest friends got to be there, they got pictures of everything, and it was so much fun to celebrate afterwards. BUT, had I wanted to say no that would have made it for a VERY awkward situation.
Being proposed to in private is nice because it’s more intimate and it’s just between the two people and you get to experience being able to share your news with others afterwards. Plus, it’s not brutal if you have to say no 😉
Seriously though, all anyone can do is choose what’s right for their partner. Both ways are cool.
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Good for you, having experienced both! I agree, at the end, what’s right for your partner is what matters. ☺
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Absolutely lol. And the fact that there was two of them might mean it wasn’t so good in the end 😬 lol. But I am lucky to have experienced so much.
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It doesn’t matter. Every experience has a purpose 😄
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That’s exactly what I believe 🙂
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Best periods are spent in private .secret proposal,secret marriage,secret…..em……coughs
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Lol… Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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I would rather be proposed to in private. Personally it would feel more romantic to me that way and then I wouldn’t have any extra pressure, though hopefully my answer will be easy anyway
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Nice, thanks for adding your thoughts to the conversation.
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