Would You Rather # 8: Have Nosy or Noisy Neighbors?


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It is not just civil to be nice to your neighbors; it is a necessary ‘investment’ because you never know when they would be of help. And there’s a reason why the entire world is referred to as a ‘global village’ because we want everyone to be a ‘neighbor’- someone we can keep in touch with, someone who can commune with and come to our aid when we urgently need their help.

But some people can really test you to your breaking point. They surpass your maximal tolerance level and the best you can do to save your heart from literally bursting out is to limit contact to the barest minimum. They think the fact that you respond to their greetings with a smile gives them the license to intrude into your matters just because…well, we are neighbors.

Come to think of it, is that how the concept of fencing or walling our homes arrived? What if it’s not to just keep the house ‘in’ but to keep others ‘out’? Is that why some houses have taller walls than others? To further emphasize the point to mind our own business?

I’m not a big fan of noisy places. It disrupts my whole system and gets me restless. To have neighbors who are either always shouting at each other or playing my least favorite genre of music non-stop on high volumes would be a near-perfect definition of hell on earth for me. I find myself at my very best in a calm and serene environment. My thinking capacity is heightened and my mood is set right. Any disturbance could upset my mood the whole day and render me unproductive. This reminds me of some of my ‘woeful’ days on campus; when students in my hostel block would put their stereos on full blast for hours especially during weekends. What torture!

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As much as I despise noisy neighbors, I don’t think I can tolerate the nosy type any better. There’s a reason why people walk away right after responding to the ‘how are you?’ inquiry. Whatever they might be going through is personal and not for ‘neighborly’ consumption unless one clearly takes away the boundaries probably because he really needs to let out what is bothering him.

But the one or two-time invitation doesn’t grant you access to someone’s life anytime you are bored with your own life just so you can entertain yourself. Even the Bible advises us to live peaceably with all men as much as we can. God knows some people are just plain difficult to live with.

I thank God for the neighbors that I have; they are generally not noisy. So if they get a little loud once in a while, I don’t let it bother me too much.
Everyone is entitled to some moments of ‘letting out steam’ from time to time. As for them being nosy, one cannot help it. Even when you repaint your house, they want to know if an event is coming up (where I come from, most families repaint their houses when a relative dies or if there’s a marriage ceremony approaching). And they have the guts to inquire as if they have the right to know.

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If all communities around the world were made up of either nosy or noisy neighbors, I think I’d settle for the nosy. Because I determine how much information goes out to them and I plan to keep my issues to myself as much as possible. But on the other hand, if the neighbors would thunder the whole place with noise but would mind their own business, it sounds like a fair settlement. I can’t seem to make up my mind.

Which one do you find more tolerable? The inquisitive or the loud neighbor? Which one is the last straw for you?

Josephine Amoako (c) 2016

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23 Comments Add yours

  1. nogr8trlove says:

    I’ve had both, noisy and nosy neighbours. I have to say I rather the nosy neighbour because I can somewhat control how much they know about me and my life. I only have to answer what I want, I certainly wouldn’t make it easy for them. The noisy neighbour on the other hand I can’t control. When and how loud they are going to be rarely comes with a warning. I’m like you I like my peace and quiet. For me it comes down to how much control I have, nosy neighbour would be my pick, however ideally none of the above would be my choice.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Sure, they are not the ideal types to live with. Thanks for sharing your take on this. ☺

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  2. I’ve had both. I choose nosy. Noisy costs us our sleep, they weren’t an easy bunch to like and I don’t enjoy not liking people.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      True and sleep is important. Thanks for passing by, Sinawo ☺

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      1. Neighbours had quite a storm of a party last night. Thought of this post hahahaha

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Eish…. Hope you managed to sleep

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      3. es luckily for me I was too tired not to.

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  3. Anders Bore says:

    Luckily i live on countryside so there is quite a distance to the so called neighbor. If I had to chose, I would go for nosy. Loud people is something I dislike regardless if it is my neighbor or not

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Good for you! I agree with you👍

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  4. Cole says:

    I enjoy having noisy neighbours! Maybe because I’m noisy… But nosy neighbours are a pain in the butt! Where I live now is super quiet. We have a lot of older and elderly neighbours, so no noise, and a lot of nosy people.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Noise sounds more tolerable than inquisitiveness. Thanks for your view, Cole ☺

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  5. piratepatty says:

    I’ve had both and I can say I’d rather you be nosy than noisy! I work from home! Luckily my neighbor is an athlete and isn’t home a lot! Don’t think I’ll ever move! lol

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I understand. The level of noise can make you relocate prematurely and I can’t imagine the frustration. Thanks for sharing, Patty! ☺

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  6. I will take the nosy one any day!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for your input. 👍

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  7. joymanda says:

    I’d prefer a noisy neighbour to a nosy one. I just can’t stand nosy people. My biggest pet peeve is a nosy person and the neighborhood I find myself in, happens to have a lot of them. They size you up anytime you pass by and pass comments to your hearing even in your presence. Despite their nosy nature, they’re not noisy. So in my case, I’d go for the noisy neighbour because trust me, nosy neighbours can be a thorn in the flesh.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I can imagine… Thanks for sharing, Joymanda ☺

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  8. Diamante says:

    Oh i would take the noisy one all day, any day….
    Nosy people are the most dangerous thing to your sanity sometimes. You will have no idea how news travelled that your daghter, who was posted up-country for her job “could be married without their knowledge”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, they can be that toxic. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Diamante☺

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  9. Kim Sweeting says:

    Nosy because at least I can control that to some degree by not obliging them, but noisy is beyond control and I love quiet.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I totally agree with you, Kim 👍

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  10. Ufuomaee says:

    Definitely prefer nosy to noisy! Noisy couldn’t care less about you… keeping you up at all hours! And I am a mess without my sleep, irritable with noiss. With the nosy, it is easier to keep your mouth shut, lock the doors and windows and close the curtains!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Totally agree. You can shut the nosy people up if you give them nothing to poke their noses into.

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