Your mother we know, but who’s your daddy?

When it comes to stories about husbands fathering kids that aren’t biologically theirs, they are bordering on the lines of countless. Unless a black couple give birth to a light-skinned babe which is prominently suspicious, it’s pretty difficult determining upon first glance if a child is indeed a man’s offspring.

Social media has become the new avenue for people to make confessions under the cloak of virtual anonymity. Secrets no matter how trivial are burdensome to carry alone so we are compelled to share it somehow just so we can feel some relief.

Men may be classified as cheats in society because we kind of expect them to be at one point in time. And wives are expected to mother kids to be considered as real women and sometimes, they feel the end justifies the means – as long as they conceive, keep it full term and deliver a bouncy baby, who cares whose sperm fertilized the egg?

Among some gruesome reasons like inability to break off illicit relations like incest (father and daughter) and hooking up with exes and producing kids who are identified as the kids of unsuspecting husbands, is the issue of protecting the male ego.

It seems two of the worst things a man would have to be identified with are being unable to sexually satisfy a woman and being unable to father children. And women being conditioned to protect the male ego at all costs, sometimes do unthinkable things at the expense of their own integrity. And what’s the result? Kids carrying the names of wrong fathers.

The truth has the quality of being in the know; it can’t be buried forever. And when it makes its way to the surface, it usually does so in a grand ugly gesture. How would you feel if you found out you are not the real father of your child(ren) regardless of your wife’s reasons? How would you feel if you found out the man you’ve called dad your whole life that you love (or detest) isn’t your biological father?

I wonder if anyone would be suspicious of their paternity enough to get DNA tested. If that was to happen, how would you confront your mother about it? Hmm…this is giving me ideas lol.

Thanks for reading!

© Josephine Amoako 2019

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