Women not worth celebrating: Death in uniform


March 7 is a special day to me because it’s my mother’s birthday. It’s my all-good-mood day because I believe I owe it to my mum to keep thoughts of her above anything else that might attempt to upset me. I usually spend the day recollecting memories that have stayed with me over the years; ones that bring tears to my eyes every time.

But this year was different. It was supposed to be extra special. I was expecting a double portion of joy with my friend due to deliver that day. I even wore a blue top to welcome the male bundle of joy into the world. The call was long overdue and when it came through in the afternoon, I was ready to scream with joy.

However, that wasn’t the case. The baby didn’t make it. How, what happened? The gestation process had been steady void of complications and my friend had texted me the day before that her water had broken. What could have possibly gone wrong?

My heart broke. My mind went blank. I felt numb. No, this couldn’t be. This wasn’t how the day was supposed to end. It was the worst feeling ever. Then when she called, I could sense her bleeding heart through her weeping voice.

‘They killed my baby,’ were her words; ones I wouldn’t wish for my worst enemy to say. What happened?

Nurses happened. We all know that due to the employment climate, we all don’t get the opportunity to work where our hearts desire so we end up with alternative jobs just to get by. Unfortunately in Ghana, nursing happens to be one of the recipient courses for frustrated youth who don’t gain admission into the university.

And who suffers for this? Everyone who ever happens to step into the hospital. Every patient is at their mercy. Nursing isn’t like a boring job behind the desk that you find yourself stuck at because your desired job has no vacancy. Nursing is supposed to be a calling; a ministry even. You need a heart ready to serve to see a pregnant mother through this significant moment.

But Ghana has to deal with heartless, disgruntled and evil women who have found their way into wearing the green and white uniforms and recklessly send delivering mothers and their newborn babies to their early graves.

My friend in her labor pangs had to go on her knees and plead to the midwife-in-charge to have a look at her as she believed her baby was ready to come out. All she did in lie in bed and send her back to her room saying she wasn’t ready yet. She had to go to the labor ward by herself only to be turned back.

For hours, she had to endure this pain of being asked not to push out the baby. After the heartbeat of the baby could not be heard, now they were ready to let her push. They watched her push out a baby strangled to death by the umbilical cord that had given him life for 40 weeks.

Yesterday was International Women’s Day and for the first time in years, I didn’t feel like celebrating it. Not because I don’t think women are worth celebrating, but because there are many of those who are definitely not worth it. Those who cloak themselves as helpers of life-giving but are in fact, agents of death who wreak havoc in families by rendering men widowers and fatherless and women motherless.

My friend always had her misgivings at delivering at the 37 Military Hospital in Accra. It’s terrible that her dreaded fears came true.

One of the most anticipated days in the year turned to be bittersweet. I had my mum’s day to celebrate and my friend’s loss to grieve. At least my friend’s life was spared; two other mothers didn’t make it along with their unborn children. And guess what, their shift ended and they went home like it was nothing. Five lives perish in one night and the nurses have no fear of having to account to anyone.

My mother wanted to be a nurse decades ago. With her big and kind heart, I know she would have been amazing at it. But I guess, it wasn’t meant to be. And those who have no business in the labor wards are ushered in to help women in their most vulnerable states, only to leave them traumatized at best and lifeless at worst.

I know God will surely restore what my friend lost but my heart bleeds for the young mother who would be admitted today and other days to come. Will she and her baby make it? Or would she sent home with milk-heavy breasts and no baby to suck them?

May God have mercy on us all.

© Josephine Amoako 2019

43 Comments Add yours

  1. Shahz says:

    This is quite common in most hospitals, they purposely ask you to hold it till the doctor comes,And then perform a C section so that the doctor could go home with a heavy pocket.After Ripping innocent lives.

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      1. Shahz says:

        Yes it is.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for the reblog, Vincent.

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      1. You’re very welcome Joyseyphina 🌷😎

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  2. Qwamenah says:

    Wow, this is so heartbreaking. Terrible. I feel for your friend…

    Liked by 3 people

    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, it was. Thanks for reading

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  3. Monique says:

    oh this is so sad. May God strengthen her 😪

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Amen, Monique. It is very sad.

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  4. Hmm… this is heartbreaking. Some nurses even talk to you like you don’t have any right to be pregnant. Afterwards they will go and sit in church like sisters of Gabriel.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very pathetic. God help us all.

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  5. Kofi says:

    Very sad. Hmm Ghana!

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  6. leonard malemia says:

    This type of nurses is the cancer we have to live with nowadays. I pray God will give all you women the strength and grace of the Hebrew women of old.

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  7. gracelarbi says:

    HMMMMM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS DEAR.
    ITS SAD AND THESE NURSES SHOULD BE SUED LA!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh I know, right? But we all k is his that would end smh…

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  8. This is so sad I do not even know what to type, especially, when she managed to go through the pregnancy and for the baby to die at the mercy of some nurses. I am certain these nurses do not have any children of their own because if they’ve experienced labour before, they wouldn’t be this insensitive. May God console your friend. My heart really goes out to her and her family. As for those nurses, they need to be weeded out of the profession before they cause more havoc than what they’ve already caused.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you very much.

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  9. That is so heartbreaking. I don’t even know how I could have held back pushing. I had to push! I’m so sorry for your friend

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you. It is heartbreaking indeed.

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  10. Very sad story. Sadly this is common in many African countries. It’s high time our laws and governments started holding such evil nurses accountable. May the Lord comfort your friend and yourself. Praying that the nurse will be brought to justice or at-least answer for her negligence.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I pray so too. Thanks for reading

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  11. Baaba says:

    Gosh, this is so heartbreaking😭
    I hope your friend gets all the needed support

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah…by God’s grace, she is

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  12. Heartbreaking. So sorry for your friend and you.

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  13. tedloveslucy says:

    I work in a hospital and the midwives are very well educated and dedicated. This would not happen in a tertiary hospital in Australia. Very sad.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes it wouldn’t and it shouldn’t. It is indeed sad.

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  14. Abena_Coffie says:

    Hmmm. This brought tears to my eyes. Its soo shameful. To think that after this, these nurses can still live with their conscience. Are they humans at all.
    The frustration over unemployment is no excuse for murder ¡!!! Something must be done

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Hmm…God have mercy on us

      Liked by 1 person

  15. Onebird says:

    Hard to imagine people can be so cruel. The graphic imagery of the umbilical cord around the baby’s neck really broke my heart.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      It is heart wrenching…

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  16. Christy says:

    This is heartbreaking. 😢

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  17. It is true ….now a day deals with people as cilent not patient

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  18. oyinwrites says:

    So sad, these nurses should be arrested.

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  19. This is still heartbreaking, 😭😭😭

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