“To thine own self be true…” Shakespeare (Hamlet)
We all owe it to ourselves to be authentic. Trying to be ourselves can be hard enough; how much more attempting to become someone else’s duplicate.
I understand we all go through moments when we might feel not good enough and our circumstances are far from fairly acceptable. We are tempted to think life is dealing someone we know a much better hand because they may have a more sociable personality than we do or are better skilled than us. Instead of working on ourselves to become better, we rather strive to become like the other person, hoping to ‘tap’ into the person’s grace sort of.
More often than not, this ends in bitter frustration and damaged self-esteem.
We were all created uniquely. We may meet people whom we share personality traits and common interests but our individuality is always there. Choosing to shed off your uniqueness so as to live in the shadow of another is a pitiful way to live because like charade, you can’t keep playing that game forever.
You’d definitely get to the point where you are tired of playing duplicate and decide to just be yourself – regardless of what others think. There’s no need to run full circle to realize that it’s a futile journey.
As we advocate for all the causes to ensure dignity of human life, we need to stand for realness, transparency and authenticity as well. When you know who and what you are, no one can deceive you by spinning a story which may sound reasonable initially.
Admit your weakness but don’t justify them. Work on becoming better. As long as you live, learning and improving yourself should never stop. Embrace your strengths and let no one make you feel guilty about what you can do well.
God made you in fearful and wonderful way. Your present circumstances might not be boosting your self-confidence at the moment but don’t allow that to damage your self-worth.
You’re not ordinary. You are a unique creation so identify yourself as such in the light of God’s word and live fully to please Him. The truth is, you can truly find yourself when you lose yourself in God.
© Josephine Amoako 2021