Loss and pain are inevitable. No matter how many times you’ve experienced loss, the pangs of pain never feels the same each time. As the Bible would put it, there’s ‘a time for everything under the sun’.
Sometimes, we tend to take the very important things in life for granted because we wrongly assume they will always be there. Then the other side of reality hits us, the side which we pretend will not happen does, then we are at a loss. Sometimes, literally!
It is very probable that almost every adult has experienced the loss of someone close. And due to the personal relationships involved, no one can tell another how to grieve. That said, expressing grief is no sign of weakness. If anything, it’s healthy to grieve. Not acknowledging loss and suppressing the grief could be detrimental to your physical and emotional health.
I’ve found out how relieving crying can be. When you are exhausted and you try holding it in for so long, you feel like your breath is getting caught in the throat. But after crying out my frustrations, I feel lighter and much relieved. So don’t deprive yourself the release of grief. You can only move on after you’ve acknowledged that your present has been significantly altered and are ready to move on from that.
Time, they say heals all wounds. No matter how painful a circumstance feels, it won’t feel the same after a year and beyond. Thank God for that. For if the pain of loss didn’t fade, we all wouldn’t turn out great. Pain has a way of revealing the worst sides of us. We become mean, distrustful and push people away.
With healing comes restoration and a renewed spirit and purpose to keep on living. The ultimate end of the tunnel where we all need to arrive at after going through the dark period of pain.
That’s the life we live in – we lose, we grieve, we heal, we move on. It’s the cycle of life. If you decide to get stuck at loss and grief, you’ll miss out on what else this life has got to offer you. So if you’re holding on to some hurt or loss from the past, perhaps it’s time to let go and allow yourself to heal.
A time for everything under the sun – a time to keep, a time to lose, to time to grieve and a time to move on.
© Josephine Amoako 2020