#WBC2020: On loss, grief and healing


Loss and pain are inevitable. No matter how many times you’ve experienced loss, the pangs of pain never feels the same each time. As the Bible would put it, there’s ‘a time for everything under the sun’.

Sometimes, we tend to take the very important things in life for granted because we wrongly assume they will always be there. Then the other side of reality hits us, the side which we pretend will not happen does, then we are at a loss. Sometimes, literally!

It is very probable that almost every adult has experienced the loss of someone close. And due to the personal relationships involved, no one can tell another how to grieve. That said, expressing grief is no sign of weakness. If anything, it’s healthy to grieve. Not acknowledging loss and suppressing the grief could be detrimental to your physical and emotional health.

I’ve found out how relieving crying can be. When you are exhausted and you try holding it in for so long, you feel like your breath is getting caught in the throat. But after crying out my frustrations, I feel lighter and much relieved. So don’t deprive yourself the release of grief. You can only move on after you’ve acknowledged that your present has been significantly altered and are ready to move on from that.

Time, they say heals all wounds. No matter how painful a circumstance feels, it won’t feel the same after a year and beyond. Thank God for that. For if the pain of loss didn’t fade, we all wouldn’t turn out great. Pain has a way of revealing the worst sides of us. We become mean, distrustful and push people away.

With healing comes restoration and a renewed spirit and purpose to keep on living. The ultimate end of the tunnel where we all need to arrive at after going through the dark period of pain.

That’s the life we live in – we lose, we grieve, we heal, we move on. It’s the cycle of life. If you decide to get stuck at loss and grief, you’ll miss out on what else this life has got to offer you. So if you’re holding on to some hurt or loss from the past, perhaps it’s time to let go and allow yourself to heal.

A time for everything under the sun – a time to keep, a time to lose, to time to grieve and a time to move on.

© Josephine Amoako 2020

25 Comments Add yours

  1. Hi! Nice to find ur site 🤗

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  2. The scripture on time used to be my Granny’s all time favorite

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I see…thanks for reading.

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  3. Ecclesiastes 3: 1- 8
    There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    2 a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    6 a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    8 a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

    Check out my series on A time for everything:
    https://livechristcentered.com/2020/05/14/everything-in-its-time-forgive/

    God’s Time. He makes it all as it should be!

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  4. Ms Abigaba says:

    Beautiful 🌹
    True, time is a gift we shouldn’t take for granted, because reliving the hurt would have been unsettling if there wasn’t an element of time
    Thank you for sharing this beautiful message 💛

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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  5. This is breathtaking and a source of encouragement

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you, Benjamin

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  6. A time for everything under the sun – a time to keep, a time to lose, to time to grieve and a time to move on.

    Thanks for this Phina.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you, Daniella

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  7. Spot on, time always makes the ache feel better, thank you so uch for sharing such an insightful piece!!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading!

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      1. you’re welcome!!

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  8. conniedia says:

    There is a time for everything under the sun and it’s amazing how the Bible puts the good alongside the bad.❤️❤️❤️
    Thanks for sharing

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, Conniedia

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  9. justynlove says:

    “Not acknowledging loss and suppressing the grief could be detrimental to your physical and emotional health.”

    My take home

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  10. Diane Reid says:

    This is a beautiful post. My husband took his life 16 months ago. I have only recently been able to cry. Not because I tried to hold back, I tried to cry and just couldn’t. Once I started crying though, healing did begin. It is a process and I am not there yet… but with the grace of God, I will make it. thank you.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      My condolences, Diane! May you find healing and comfort in our Lord Jesus Christ. It is well.

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  11. We really like how you walked everyone through the healing part of each step you took. We would like to include you in our upcoming issue of “This Just In… Tears Bloom.”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks. What’s it about, if I may ask?

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      1. Hi there. What we do is produce a weekly e-zine on a topic (the next one is on grief) and in a video we feature the authors we really loved on that subject. Then we follow up on our site with articles on the topic with our immortal spin on it. We just did one on traveling if you would like to see how you would be represented 🙂

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  12. You’re right that crying can bring relief. It has for me when I’ve cried during the loss of my daughter.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh my condolences. May God comfort you.

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