Marriage: Paradise for hubby, Battlefield for wifey


A man is a man whether he’s a bachelor or a spouse
A woman is fully validated as one when she is made a wife

A boy is not necessarily raised to be a good husband
A girl is consciously trained to be a helper and homemaker

All that is expected of a man is to provide the ring and the babies
A woman is expected to make the marriage work and raise the kids well

While the groom is tapped on the back for taking the step to join the table of men
The bride is prayed for to receive wisdom to keep the marriage on its feet

For a man, marriage is a rite of passage
For a woman, it is a huge favor done her

A cheating husband is considered an expected flaw in biological behavior
A cheating wife is inexcusably flawed; a bane to the institution of marriage

A cheating husband feels entitled to be forgiven; it couldn’t be helped
A cheating wife to be forgiven is considered a favor; and is constantly reminded so

A divorced man is sympathized with and deserves a second chance at love
A divorced woman is a failure; must be investigated before committing to her

For a man, marriage should be a paradise where he is worshipped
For a woman, marriage is a battlefield to keep all opposing forces away

A man is a man regardless of his faults
A woman is only deemed a worthy one when she keeps to societal expectations

Until the field is leveled for both sides
Until men are made to feel equally responsible for the success of their marriages
Taught to be helpful and counseled to be faithful to their spouses
The scales will always be tilted creating an imbalance
And sooner or later, one is bound to fall

Husbands and wives should love and submit to each other
A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord
A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised!

© Josephine Amoako 2019

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20 Comments Add yours

  1. MaKupsy says:

    “A divorced woman is a failure; must be investigated before committing to her”

    If you come to Zimbabwe you will get to witness this first hand. One can’t be a divorced woman and not be questioned a million times over as to why she is not with her husband. A tiring process. Lovely post as always, you touched on many things society doesn’t speak out on. Well done to you!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      So unfortunate….thanks for reading. Have a great week.

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  2. 🌹V.O.L says:

    As a society we need to do better. Thanks for sharing .. 🙏🏾

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes, we do. Thanks for reading. Have a great week.

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  3. Haha…. This issue. It will create a lot of fall out but what is equal and fair to all must be done.

    Sent from my iPad

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s true. Thanks for reading and have a great week.

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  4. Banleman Banan says:

    Insightful piece ….very true. Will the field ever be labelled??

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Hmmm…big question

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    2. Banleman Banan says:

      *levelled

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  5. Miss.Kizza says:

    Such an imbalance in our societal scales. God help us

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  6. heatherjo86 says:

    Sadly, this is so true. I’m so glad that God never intended marriage to be that way although some use the Bible to justify these misguided notions. God has and always will hold the husband as the head of the household responsible for the success of the marriage. The two are to be one flesh with no man pulling them apart (Matthew 19:6). That includes the husband. Jehovah’s view of the marriage arrangement is a stark contrast to the world’s view.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very true. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. Have a blessed day 😊

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  7. Ashli says:

    I love this as it’s very eye opening – thank you for posting!

    following your blog now too! x

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for passing by! 😊

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  8. sweetmagg says:

    Phina what’s ur secret don’t tell me though I might b push to still it. U just wow nice one up there

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha…the Holy Spirit is. Thanks for reading, dear

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  9. Ufuomaee says:

    I really loved this! It’s the sad sad pathetic truth… Good post.

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