Marriage: Paradise for hubby, Battlefield for wifey


A man is a man whether he’s a bachelor or a spouse
A woman is fully validated as one when she is made a wife

A boy is not necessarily raised to be a good husband
A girl is consciously trained to be a helper and homemaker

All that is expected of a man is to provide the ring and the babies
A woman is expected to make the marriage work and raise the kids well

While the groom is tapped on the back for taking the step to join the table of men
The bride is prayed for to receive wisdom to keep the marriage on its feet

For a man, marriage is a rite of passage
For a woman, it is a huge favor done her

A cheating husband is considered an expected flaw in biological behavior
A cheating wife is inexcusably flawed; a bane to the institution of marriage

A cheating husband feels entitled to be forgiven; it couldn’t be helped
A cheating wife to be forgiven is considered a favor; and is constantly reminded so

A divorced man is sympathized with and deserves a second chance at love
A divorced woman is a failure; must be investigated before committing to her

For a man, marriage should be a paradise where he is worshipped
For a woman, marriage is a battlefield to keep all opposing forces away

A man is a man regardless of his faults
A woman is only deemed a worthy one when she keeps to societal expectations

Until the field is leveled for both sides
Until men are made to feel equally responsible for the success of their marriages
Taught to be helpful and counseled to be faithful to their spouses
The scales will always be tilted creating an imbalance
And sooner or later, one is bound to fall

Husbands and wives should love and submit to each other
A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord
A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised!

© Josephine Amoako 2019

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44 Comments Add yours

  1. MaKupsy says:

    “A divorced woman is a failure; must be investigated before committing to her”

    If you come to Zimbabwe you will get to witness this first hand. One can’t be a divorced woman and not be questioned a million times over as to why she is not with her husband. A tiring process. Lovely post as always, you touched on many things society doesn’t speak out on. Well done to you!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      So unfortunate….thanks for reading. Have a great week.

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  2. 🌹V.O.L says:

    As a society we need to do better. Thanks for sharing .. 🙏🏾

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes, we do. Thanks for reading. Have a great week.

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  3. Haha…. This issue. It will create a lot of fall out but what is equal and fair to all must be done.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s true. Thanks for reading and have a great week.

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  4. Banleman Banan says:

    Insightful piece ….very true. Will the field ever be labelled??

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Hmmm…big question

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    2. Banleman Banan says:

      *levelled

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  5. Miss.Kizza says:

    Such an imbalance in our societal scales. God help us

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  6. heatherjo86 says:

    Sadly, this is so true. I’m so glad that God never intended marriage to be that way although some use the Bible to justify these misguided notions. God has and always will hold the husband as the head of the household responsible for the success of the marriage. The two are to be one flesh with no man pulling them apart (Matthew 19:6). That includes the husband. Jehovah’s view of the marriage arrangement is a stark contrast to the world’s view.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very true. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. Have a blessed day 😊

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  7. Ashli says:

    I love this as it’s very eye opening – thank you for posting!

    following your blog now too! x

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for passing by! 😊

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  8. sweetmagg says:

    Phina what’s ur secret don’t tell me though I might b push to still it. U just wow nice one up there

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha…the Holy Spirit is. Thanks for reading, dear

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  9. Ufuomaee says:

    I really loved this! It’s the sad sad pathetic truth… Good post.

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  10. joycesefa says:

    You nailed it girl!

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  11. Great points! Husbands are commanded to ‘love’ their wives as Christ loved the church. The word used is Agape (unconditional, God-like love). This is a sacrificial love. It is the same word used in 1 John 3 in which God lavishes His love on us. As a husband, I am called to serve my wife and lavish on her!!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      God bless you for obeying His word.

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      1. There are plenty of self-centered days on my part, but serving is the goal and purpose!

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  12. I feel bad for married women because all husbands cheat. I have slept with many married men in my time, and I hate to say it, but not one married man has ever turned me down. I even say “are you sure you want to do this because you’re married”, and every time these married men tell me, “my wife won’t find out” or they lie and say that they are separated.

    Men are just pigs to be honest. A few wives have blamed me for breaking up their marriages, but I shouldn’t be at blame because I’m not the one who is married.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Interesting point…my question is, if you do get married one day, how would you feel if your husband cheats on you?

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      1. Well I’m 100% certain that my future husband would cheat on me because I really believe that ALL MEN cheat no matter how much they love their wife. Men just love sex and like I said, all men on my opinion are pigs.

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      2. joseyphina says:

        With what you know about men, is there anything you’d do to avoid or reduce the chances of future hubby cheating on you?

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      3. Allow him to not be scared to tell me about his fantasies and not get upset at him for watching porn or telling me the women that he finds sexy. Lots of women get mad at their man if they stare at s woman or if they look at porn. If you don’t make porn or checking out women a big deal then their man will be more comfortable about always being honest.

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      4. joseyphina says:

        So basically most men cheat because wives don’t indulge their men about their fantasies so they find other women who would…

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      5. Possibly. If you can’t talk openly with your wife about sex then they seek the ears of someone that they can be open and honest with. If they could be open and honest with their wife then they won’t need to find someone to discuss this with.

        It’s a fact that most women get way too mad if they see their man looking at a cute strange at the grocery store….he’s not going to screw some stranger he sees at the store…he’s just looking at a pretty girl..why should a wife get offended over that. It’s stupid.

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      6. joseyphina says:

        Probably because the men don’t look at their wives the same way and that gets them jealous. But I do get your point. Thanks for sharing.

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      7. If a chick gets mad at her man for just looking at other women then she is causing him to lie to her by not looking or telling her “I don’t think anyone is sexy other than you”…even the hottest chick in the world has someone that is sexier than she is…..who cares if a man thinks someone is beautiful…he’s with you right? But you cause him to lie to you and can’t discuss fun things or joke around like “wow a 3some with her and us would be crazy”. I mean guys are scared to even tease their women about fantasies.

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      8. joseyphina says:

        I get your point but not all ‘jokes’ like that of a threesome would be taken lightly though…

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      9. Exactly my point. No jokes are taken lightly by women. This is why men keep their thoughts to themselves. It’s their fault though for marrying someone they can’t be honest with tho. It’s as much their fault as it is the wives.

        In the end if a man cheats it’s his fault for cheating. He should grow a pair and tell his wife everything and not be scared that she will get mad at him

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      10. joseyphina says:

        I agree with you that it’s the man’s fault for cheating. He made a decision to do so and shouldn’t blame the wife for something she might not be doing. After all, s marriage is for better or for worse, right?

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      11. Yep. That’s why I’m taking my time❤️

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  13. I totally agree with this post, maybe that’s the way some men are.

    I am a different guy looking for a girl with certain traits

    https://lovmyselfs.wordpress.com/2019/03/29/my-future-wife-be-like/

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  14. I love this joseyphina. We just started a marriage blog and we have very similar viewpoints! https://marriedstrong.com/

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  15. Drinking Coffee and reading comments, Good Discussion

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice….thanks for reading, Timothy.

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  16. TJ says:

    Wonderful, and so very true. The disparities between the role of women vs men, wives vs. husbands is a big problem. It runs very deep, and unfortunately goes back to pre-Christian times. I am going to follow you because I really enjoyed this. If you feel so inclined, take a gander at my posts, and follow if you like what you read. I am also going to make a direct link back to your post in one of my upcoming posts. Feel free to do the same if you read anything you like on my site. Thank you for this eye-opening post.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      So glad you enjoyed this post, TJ. Will definitely check out your site.

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