No matter how self-motivated or self-sufficient you are, you can’t deny the power of a compliment paid you…especially out of the blue. Likewise, it is self-fulfilling to pay another person a sincere compliment; knowing that you helped put a smile on someone’s face.
There’s a fine line between buttering someone up/flattering and complimenting him/her. I don’t hold back from uttering a compliment as long as it’s true but I find it difficult to flatter anyone. If everyone else is saying one’s outfit/hairdo is amazing and Idon’t see it that way, I’d rather shut up and make myself busy with something else. No need to lie unnecessarily and add it to my prayer list, asking for forgiveness.
What compliments do I remember giving people this year?
- You look nice…I like your…. It really looks good on you.
- Well done/You’ve done very well.
- I like your handwriting.
I’m sure there are others along these lines. Paying someone compliments doesn’t take anything away from you. It doesn’t mean you’re envious of whatever the other has. It’s expressing how happy you are for the person for possessing that item/virtue.
What compliments have I received this year?
- You have beautiful eyes/I like your eyes.
- I like your smile.
- You look nice.
And some others along similar lines. I was grateful for them. At least even if I’m having a rough day, I remember there’s something about me to be thankful about. I’ve come to realize that we can do more than just having positive thoughts of others. Whenever you can and the occasion deserves it, be generous with giving out compliments. Don’t overdo it or else the recipient would doubt its sincerity. The person might be going through a tough time and would need some kind words to uplift himself from feeling down.
What’s your favorite compliment received? What’s the sincerest compliment you’ve ever paid someone? Kindly share and thanks for reading.
© Josephine Amoako 2018