Wives Need Competition to Step Up, Says Uber Driver


Yep, that is exactly what one Uber driver told me one night on a drive home. I was too exhausted to think much less to have a conversation.

According to him, wives become complacent in catering for them when they know they face no threat of losing their husbands. The moment they realize there is or might be someone else seeing to their needs, they suddenly become aware that they have a territory to protect.

He went on to suggest that, men should have mistresses not for cheating sake per se, but just the impression keeps wives on their toes. I couldn’t believe my ears and unfortunately my mind was on the verge of shutting down that I couldn’t challenge him on his point of view.

I do remember asking him how he would feel if his wife were doing same to him with that kind of intention. He couldn’t submit any reasonable argument to that effect. It is rather unfortunate that some men of today think it is okay to knock women’s heads together just to stroke their egos as being relevant in their lives. Regrettably, most women take the bait and aggressively tear each other down just to take on someone’s name or bear his children.

It’s funny how men who stop treating their wives the way they used to when they were dating expect the women to treat them the same way before they got married. Every action calls for a reaction and so is it with an inaction. You can’t leave the pitch and go and sit on the fence and expect the game to continue. It takes two to tango. If you leave the dancing floor, the best your partner can do is to walk out as well or better yet, find another partner to dance with.

If you believe your spouse needs some stepping up to do, then perhaps so do you. Women are naturally responsive to any deed that triggers their emotional senses. If she’s running low on ‘love gas’, then perhaps it’s time to fill up the tank. Want your wife to submit more? Love her more.

Marriage is a commitment between two people with no need for a third party to keep them on their toes. For those who see being side chicks as a ministry with the aim of destroying marriages, may God have mercy on you.

Dear husbands, it is your responsibility for your wives to feel secure in the marriage; thus it’s uncalled for to make them feel ‘threatened’ about losing their place. The minute you think otherwise, you’re unfit to be anyone’s husband.

© Josephine Amoako 2018

20 Comments Add yours

  1. Micki Allen says:

    I cannot even comment what I want to reply for fear that the enormous level of cursing would get me banned from WordPress. I will praise this, however. Your line, “For those who see being side chicks as a ministry with the aim of destroying marriages, may God have mercy on you,” is SPOT ON, Joseyphina. Keep on keepin’ on, Sister. xox

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I understand your sentiments, Micki. It’s disheartening for some people to have such a thought, I must say. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts 😊

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for passing by 😊

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  3. Wammyspeaks says:

    PREACH 👏👏👏👏👏

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  4. Anesi says:

    It’s really disheartening that a lot of men in Nigeria think like this, we aren’t objects placed in their homes to fight you attention and love. The Bible says husbands should love their wives, I think the main issue is that people don’t know what love means these days.
    Thank you for pointing this out👏🏽👏🏽

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I think so too, men don’t want to love these days but they want their women to submit. Smh

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      1. Anesi says:

        Exactly! Very terrible concept

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  5. Valerie says:

    Joe!!!hehehe. I am lost for words.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha…Thanks for reading, dear.

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  6. You actually sat and listened to such an ignoramus! No matter how tired I was I would have fought such illeteracy! So sad what’s happening these days Josey

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very very sad, Deshi.

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  7. Don’t mind the uber driver 😊😊😊

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  8. As a side chick for five years, it is hard to move forward. I did not set out to have the affair with this man or plan to destory his marriage it takes two. When I ask him why do men cheat the response was men are hunters they always want more. if a man needs is not met at home he would seek else where.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      For me, that is a lame excuse for men to make. They mean even if things are going well, They are born hunters as if that gives them the right to cheat. Marriage is a commitment for better for worse. If something isn’t working, figure it out with your partner instead of looking outside for someone to be your stress reliever.

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      1. I agree, they should work it between themselves or it just gets messy.

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