Would You Rather #86: Leave Your Unemployed Child Homeless or Cover Up for His Drug Habits/illegal Activities? 


Parenting is hard; parenting a child who has gone off the rails is even unbearable. The lines between being strict and unloving could easily be blurred in the child’s eyes. The child could in turn use it to manipulate the parents whenever they attempt disciplining him for wrong behavior.
Though I’m not a parent yet, I’m sure one thing parents fear to hear their children say is, ‘I know you hate me.’ And so in meting out punishment, some parents would play the ‘good cop’ so as remain in their children’s good graces.

Most adults underestimate the cleverness of children and do not realize it when they are being manipulated by their little beings. As they grow and get more exposed to the environment and interact with others from different backgrounds, they are bound to chance upon certain deviant behaviors.

For some, it’s just a phase; they find themselves back on the straight line after sometime. For others, they take a wrong turn and their lives take a never ending nosedive afterwards. Only the grace of God and active intervention of loved ones can help such people.

Some parents in an attempt to protect their children, cover up their deviant acts which only enables them to keep it up as they know that no matter how bad they mess up, mum and dad will be there to clean up after them. If parents cover up their children’s misdeeds with no efforts to correct their behavior, it becomes highly unlikely for the children to see the light. It would end badly for them.

From the many movies I’ve watched, I see a lot of distraught parents sending their children off to rehab centers to make them ‘clean.’ Some even go to the extent of driving them out of home with threats of disowning them completely if they don’t get their act together. As they they are the devil finds work for the idle hands. Although it may sound extreme, sometimes threatening the lazy/wayward child with such an unpleasant reality could put the fear of God in him and make him see reason.

However, I think rendering your child homeless is a game of chance. It could work in making him see sense or could backfire in the case where he overdoses and dies or gets caught in a crossfire because of the illegal activities he’s involved in and dies. Such a parent would blame himself/herself for driving the child out to meet his death and might never forgive himself.

I think covering up your child’s misdeeds is tantamount to holding a knife to their throats and pushing his hand to cut himself. Talk of sparing the rod and spoiling the child. I don’t see a happy ending with such an approach.

Though I believe there are better ways to make your point than rendering your child homeless, if that’s the only option left with a great chance that it would work, I might choose it. Might be bittersweet but a chance I’m willing to take nonetheless.

What about you? Which option would you take and why? Kindly share your thoughts and thanks for reading.

© Josephine Amoako 2017

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8 Comments Add yours

  1. Hmmmm good question and this one is so hard because, I’d never want to be an enabler so I would have to say homeless and continue to pray and help them in anyway possible as far as rehabilitation.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, C. Have a great week!

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  2. MaKupsy says:

    With the way I love my daughter I could not possibly imagine making her homeless in the hope of having her change her ways. Like you said, it can work for the good or the bad. I still can’t decide what I would do, I am officially stressed out 😦

    This was a good read though.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Sorry for stressing you out on a Monday morning 😢 lol. Thanks for reading, dear. Have a lovely day.

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  3. McApple says:

    Stop finding delight in giving us two impossibles 😂😂🙈🙈 (joking).
    Just keep up the good work 👍👏

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha… Thanks for reading! 😂

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  4. The W.O.R.D. says:

    The choice is absolutely not to enable! Where it seems you have been tremendously blessed not to experience a situation like this, I have (all because of the choices I made)! I am an only child and was raised with discipline in a good Christian home and still turned to the ways of the world. For years my mom enabled me until she received support and encouragement to stop one day! I praise God for that day, because she trusted him with me. After years of her prayer and trusting I am now serving the Lord in full time ministry, clean and sober!
    (In her not enabling, I was homeless for a time.)
    Thanks for writing on this topic, it’s a tough one but necessary to address!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Wow… Thanks for sharing your story, Kate! Much appreciated

      Liked by 1 person

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