You remember back in school where your colleagues used to pair up to study, hang out and everything else in between so as to make their college life a smooth ride? A good percentage of them ended a few months after graduation when the couples found out the relationship has exhausted its value.
Is it possible that phenomenon has found its way in the work place? Work can be stressful no doubt and on some days, it’s a nightmare. We all need one or a couple of persons to rely on during those days to sail through the stress. But how close is too close? Should the lines of professional conduct be blurred because you two ‘click’ so well?
Some colleagues get so comfortable with each other that they are practically in each other’s personal space. They share a table to work, chat and eat. When one is not around, the other looks like a fish out of water. When they are together, it seems they are in a world of their own, oblivious to whatever is going on around them. When they are not talking to each other, the whole office space feels the tension. Mind you, they may not necessarily be romantically involved but platonic ‘better halves’ of each other.
Is it healthy, should it be encouraged? Some would say it has its perks as it can motivate one to come to work early and leave late thus working more thanks to the presence of other colleague who makes work ‘fun.’ It could be okay if both parties are single but what if one or both of them are in serious relationships or married? Does it feel right to risk ‘catching feelings’ for a close friend at work and find yourself emotionally cheating on your partner?
It is natural to start developing a soft spot for people who treat us affectionately; no matter how neutral it feels in the beginning, it is bound to change unless conscious steps are taken to minimize the amount of contact shared.
In the initial stages, it might look cute seeing two colleagues turning into ‘work spouses’ of some sort as an onlooker but it could grow to be irritating and even suffocating in the work space when it is overdone. I think it is great to bond with people we spend several hours with daily but one should know when and where to draw the line to avoid any compromising situation with its subsequent temptations.
What do you think about the idea of work spouses? Do you have one? Is there one in your office? Is it cool or dangerous? Kindly share your thoughts and let’s get talking!
© Josephine Amoako 2017
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