Would You Rather #80: Look Strong and Be Weak or Look Weak and Be Strong? 


Impression is everything, some may say. The image you portray determines which side of the table you get to sit. Because people can be manipulative and play on your weakness to exploit you, it may not be a smart idea to show people that side of you. You may only do so when you have gotten to know them better to trust them with your vulnerabilities.

We all put up a front sometimes, not to deceive others but to disallow our weakness to take center stage. Sometimes, it is by pulling your weight that you find the strength to do whatever you want to do. Telling yourself ‘I can do this,’ can go a long way in spurring you on to achieve great things for yourself.

To deliberately appear weak in something when you are actually well and able to perform could be a ‘clever’ way of exploiting others. Doing that will make people lose their guard around you only for you to strike at the most opportune moment. It sounds like a way for people to underestimate you to your advantage. It’s a sly way of playing modest; one that others might find offensive.

It is better to admit your weakness and work on them instead of acting helpless about it to solicit people’s pity. It is not healthy to pretend you are ‘all that’ when in reality, you are nowhere near the first alphabet of the word.  Don’t tell people you earn much and so can afford a certain standard of living when you can’t. In the same way, don’t pretend you can’t help someone with the excuse that you’re not in the position to when actually you can.

Don’t be pretentious, it does you no real good. Don’t play the victim and then turn around and bite the hands that reach out to help you. It pays to be honest with who you are and what you can do but knowing what your weaknesses are doesn’t stop you from doing something about them to benefit you.

I won’t make myself look weak when I’m not; neither will I portray myself to look strong when I’m not. It is okay to bring your shortcomings to bare to people who are in a position to help. I won’t settle on my weakness; I won’t use it to exploit people either. I call myself a working progress and progress is good.

What about you? How would you portray yourself to others and why? Kindly share your thoughts.

© Josephine Amoako 2017

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28 Comments Add yours

  1. Ganzymalgwi says:

    I will rather look weak and be strong. Looking strong and being weak does not makes sense, it pointless and it will achieve nothing in life.

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  2. kphoenix1 says:

    I agree. I would rather say what is wrong, and definitely not being weak and looking like I got it together. Thanks for sharing this post.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      And thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, K. Have a great week!

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  3. It depends where someone is in life. You could be strong in certain areas that people on the outside world, not in your immediate circle, get to observe. Something could happen to you, that may cause you to become weak. Does that mean you’ve betrayed the perspectives of others or mislead someone? Nope. It is impossible to know everything about someone by judging their actions because things are not always as they seem. Take depression for example, someone whose been on top of their game in previous years could seem weak during depressed states of being. Does that mean they’ve been misleading others? Speaking from experience, it hard to be on top of your game in a depressed state. So what one may perceive me to struggle with, may not be a struggle at all once I’ve returned from the perceived state of weakness i.e. depression. Its better to take people at face value than assume anything. Working with them as time progresses will show their true colors, so to speak.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very well said. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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      1. You are welcome.

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  4. Nice, it’s really inspiring….i’ll choose to be strong and look weak, being strong inside is much more better

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Thank you very much. Much appreciated.

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  5. Esther says:

    Great post.

    For me, I would rather look strong, and be weak. We’re talking about impressions after all. Looking strong gets people off your back, but when one looks weak, every one just want to try you, and they think you’re not capable, and they’ll help themselves push you to that breaking point, where you’ll become weak. If I’m weak inside, only I know that. I put up a brave front, and only the ones who care would get to know me enough that I’m really not as strong as I look to be.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Great thoughts there, Esther! Appreciate you sharing them. Have a great week!

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      1. Esther says:

        You too Phina!

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    2. niifakye says:

      I think I agree with Esther

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  6. I would rather look weak and be strong.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Peter.

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  7. Look weak and be strong. If you look strong, the world comes after you. And then you’re unprepared. If you look weak, the world lets you be and you can grow.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Are you sure the world would let you be if you came off as weak? Won’t they rather pick on you? Appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

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      1. I’ve been weak before, and being picked on happens, but it’s not too hard to adapt just enough to be left alone.

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Oh okay. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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  8. I don’t know where I read it, but I once read something about how it does no good to the people around you to pretend to be weaker or poorer than you are just to “avoid making them feel uncomfortable.” It’s actually better to show all your talents and be strong as an example and leader. that way if they feel uncomfortable they have something to aspire to, rather than just feeling complacent because “everyone else is just the same.”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s a good one! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  9. jpimbo says:

    I would rather look weak because I’m not a pretender. As weak person you have no where to come from and are always hiding. I think that God could make that person strong, so its not the end. ‘ All things work together for good to those who are in Christ Jesus, who are called according to His purpose’. I know this to be true as am not a strong person- maybe look strong- but God has given me a place in my family.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Insightful! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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  10. gracelarbi says:

    We all have our strengths and weaknesses and sure I’d like to be me all the time.

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  11. That’s society today. Becuase society has twisted the view of self-image, we see people that have lots of wealth, big businesses, and much more as more important than we are.

    But that couldn’t be far from the truth. When God first created man, He wanted us to look like Him “in His own image”. We don’t need to get satisfaction from people who don’t care about us, but from the One who has always cared.

    So, the next time you think that your impression for society is insufficient, just look upward and ask God; “How do you see me?”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Good question. Great reminder. Thanks for sharing. God bless you.

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