Impression is everything, some may say. The image you portray determines which side of the table you get to sit. Because people can be manipulative and play on your weakness to exploit you, it may not be a smart idea to show people that side of you. You may only do so when you have gotten to know them better to trust them with your vulnerabilities.
We all put up a front sometimes, not to deceive others but to disallow our weakness to take center stage. Sometimes, it is by pulling your weight that you find the strength to do whatever you want to do. Telling yourself ‘I can do this,’ can go a long way in spurring you on to achieve great things for yourself.
To deliberately appear weak in something when you are actually well and able to perform could be a ‘clever’ way of exploiting others. Doing that will make people lose their guard around you only for you to strike at the most opportune moment. It sounds like a way for people to underestimate you to your advantage. It’s a sly way of playing modest; one that others might find offensive.
It is better to admit your weakness and work on them instead of acting helpless about it to solicit people’s pity. It is not healthy to pretend you are ‘all that’ when in reality, you are nowhere near the first alphabet of the word. Don’t tell people you earn much and so can afford a certain standard of living when you can’t. In the same way, don’t pretend you can’t help someone with the excuse that you’re not in the position to when actually you can.
Don’t be pretentious, it does you no real good. Don’t play the victim and then turn around and bite the hands that reach out to help you. It pays to be honest with who you are and what you can do but knowing what your weaknesses are doesn’t stop you from doing something about them to benefit you.
I won’t make myself look weak when I’m not; neither will I portray myself to look strong when I’m not. It is okay to bring your shortcomings to bare to people who are in a position to help. I won’t settle on my weakness; I won’t use it to exploit people either. I call myself a working progress and progress is good.
What about you? How would you portray yourself to others and why? Kindly share your thoughts.
© Josephine Amoako 2017