Ask the average person the qualities he/she looks for in a potential partner and the physical appeal would most often than not, be mentioned. It doesn’t imply that he is vain for looking out for the attractive side of a person; it is indeed significant. After a long hard day of work, anyone would love to return home to meet someone with a face or appearance he finds pleasant.
Beauty they say, lies in the eyes of the beholder. Many people can agree on whether someone famous is pretty or handsome but with variations. What one finds as stunning, another would see it as not that much of a big deal. You can’t fault anyone for having a different perception from yours. It is what it is.
Before you get to know anyone for what he/she truly is, it is basically the physical appearance that would attract you to or repel you from the person. So although choosing someone to marry based mainly on looks is a terrible idea, looks go a long way in meeting potential people you would consider for marital commitment.
I don’t have to be ugly to get married to a good looking person. How would you feel if you found out your partner saw you as ugly? That’s demeaning and damaging to one’s self-esteem. Even if you consider yourself ugly, you wouldn’t want your partner to see you and much more call you as such.
Would I marry an ugly person? Hmm. I’ve heard myself and others say that true beauty is from within and that’s what matters. That is true but an argument I heard someone put across which I found valid was that, when you meet someone for the first time, it’s not the beauty from within that you see; it’s the physical appearance so we shouldn’t water down the importance of physical appeal.
I know for a fact that I won’t get married to a drop-dead handsome dude because no matter how fine looking one is, I would definitely find another who looks better than him. And what is the guarantee that he is going to look that good forever? Making permanent decisions on such temporary conditions could be disastrous. But marrying someone I consider ‘ugly’ would be a no no. If I don’t find you appealing to stare at, then it is nearly impossible to respect you and be proud to be associated with you. And starting a relationship on such a premise is a recipe for a foreseeable breakup. I don’t wish to waste my time and emotions on such an unproductive venture.
If I have to be ugly to get married to a good looking person, then I’ll pass. Marrying an ugly person is subjective as well. One can have a pretty face and an ugly attitude and vice versa. If I had to choose between an ugly face and an ugly character, I’d choose the former. However, I shouldn’t call a potential partner ugly no matter how awful he looks as I should see something beautiful about him; good enough for me to decide to stay with him. If I do see him as ugly, then something is definitely wrong and I need to go back to the drawing board.
What do you think? Which one would you prefer and why? Kindly share your thoughts.
© Josephine Amoako 2017
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I would prefer being committed in marriage to the person who is a part of my soul. All other attributes will be present if there is a divinely guided soul connection. There will be no room or need for vain disputes.
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That’s deep! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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No problem
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I think good looks only get you about two weeks into a relationship. If someone is unattractive, why would you want to be with them? I once dated a man who was just okay looking, but was very charming. He was rich also. He treated me like dirt, and caused me a lot of pain. I have been married to a handsome man for over 20 years. He is the kindest, most caring person I could have ever hoped for.
A friend, whose daughter was trying to get pregnant, asked her mother if her baby might be ugly because her husband isn’t very attractive. Now mind you, her husband is far from ugly, but my friend’s daughter is very shallow. She wondered if she should try to get pregnant. Honestly, I was shocked. This young woman had three miscarriages, and was more worried about her child being ugly, than healthy. Talk about vain. She finally had a little girl. Guess what?? She looks just like her dad. The child is very odd looking, but I hope she grows out of it. P.S. My friend is very vain as well, so I guess I see where her daughter gets it from.
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Lol… You are so right. Some people place priority on non-essential things. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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I agree with you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and as much as it is said that the physical look doesn’t matter, it does. I mean, he doesn’t have to look good to the whole world. If you see him as good looking, good for you. I agree totally with your view point on it
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I’m glad you do, Esther. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.
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Attraction is vital but it takes more than just a fine face and body to make a marriage work. I will go for content over cover
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Lol… Love that! Never judge a book by its cover, they say. Thanks for sharing your sharing your, Grisele. Have a lovely day.
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I think the whole deal about how one’s partner looks is more of a self-ego thing. You want people to look at you and go, “Nice catch!” Looks are great for a high school/university flings but certainly not when marraige is involved
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I agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Tohbee.
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Content for me first, and cover can follow. I have once dated the most handsome boy in school and the way he shattered my heart was beyond repair. So I think, i’d prefer to marry who you call ‘ugly’ and would make me happy thank stick to the ‘handsome worry’.
The heart speaks volume about beauty now than the physical appearance!
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I love the tag, handsome worry. I totally agree with you, Debs! Thanks for sharing your thoughts m
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I don’t think looks are very important in a relationship and it’s mainly his personality that matters most but if I absolutely had to choose I would rather go for someone who is less attractive because good looking guys I’ve met so far tend to have horrible personalities whereas the ok looking guys are really nice. Plus, if he was really good looking I would get pretty insecure and I think I would have a hard time trusting him.
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Very valid points raised, PoojaG. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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Thanks! 🙂
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Josey, I think people make looks their priority when starting an intimate relationship and that’s what causes the breakup most often. It will also just be hypocritical to say you don’t mind the looks. Ei! You will give a damn no matter what. Thanks for this Josey!
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Hehe… Definitely give a damn😂. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Naana.
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Haha. 3y3 as3m oo. But personally I don’t really see the Bright light in a guy if He is not intelligent. But it will be great to have both two; intelligence and a handsome physique in a husband.
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True, without intelligence, the finest person is a total put off. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Monique
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A tuff topic… Love is multidimensional, appearance is confidence, wealth is a blind love
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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But you knw I didn’t drop all…. We don’t choose the gene we inherited but we may choose the platform and template our children’s gene will be picked… By going for love with our eyes open.
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I’m confused. Which did you actually choose?
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Lol… Didn’t really choose. Just pointed out that ugly was subjective. If I love someone, I should be able to see beyond the physics looks and so should see him as such. But I’d take an ugly face over an ugly character.
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Yeah, but your question was would you rather be the one considered ugly, or be seen as beautiful abd marry someone considered ugly by you and others right? So, what’s your answer to that?
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I don’t have a direct answer for that.
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Decisions…decisions…oy!
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This was a hard question but I think I would rather be good looking marrying an ugly person. Because If I marry an ugly person,it’s because I am in love with her personality which would overshadow her looks in my opinion.
No matter how good looking you are, there will be always somebody better looking than you and looks will fade over time. You won’t look as attractive at 65 then you did when your 25.
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