Ask the average person the qualities he/she looks for in a potential partner and the physical appeal would most often than not, be mentioned. It doesn’t imply that he is vain for looking out for the attractive side of a person; it is indeed significant. After a long hard day of work, anyone would love to return home to meet someone with a face or appearance he finds pleasant.
Beauty they say, lies in the eyes of the beholder. Many people can agree on whether someone famous is pretty or handsome but with variations. What one finds as stunning, another would see it as not that much of a big deal. You can’t fault anyone for having a different perception from yours. It is what it is.
Before you get to know anyone for what he/she truly is, it is basically the physical appearance that would attract you to or repel you from the person. So although choosing someone to marry based mainly on looks is a terrible idea, looks go a long way in meeting potential people you would consider for marital commitment.
I don’t have to be ugly to get married to a good looking person. How would you feel if you found out your partner saw you as ugly? That’s demeaning and damaging to one’s self-esteem. Even if you consider yourself ugly, you wouldn’t want your partner to see you and much more call you as such.
Would I marry an ugly person? Hmm. I’ve heard myself and others say that true beauty is from within and that’s what matters. That is true but an argument I heard someone put across which I found valid was that, when you meet someone for the first time, it’s not the beauty from within that you see; it’s the physical appearance so we shouldn’t water down the importance of physical appeal.
I know for a fact that I won’t get married to a drop-dead handsome dude because no matter how fine looking one is, I would definitely find another who looks better than him. And what is the guarantee that he is going to look that good forever? Making permanent decisions on such temporary conditions could be disastrous. But marrying someone I consider ‘ugly’ would be a no no. If I don’t find you appealing to stare at, then it is nearly impossible to respect you and be proud to be associated with you. And starting a relationship on such a premise is a recipe for a foreseeable breakup. I don’t wish to waste my time and emotions on such an unproductive venture.
If I have to be ugly to get married to a good looking person, then I’ll pass. Marrying an ugly person is subjective as well. One can have a pretty face and an ugly attitude and vice versa. If I had to choose between an ugly face and an ugly character, I’d choose the former. However, I shouldn’t call a potential partner ugly no matter how awful he looks as I should see something beautiful about him; good enough for me to decide to stay with him. If I do see him as ugly, then something is definitely wrong and I need to go back to the drawing board.
What do you think? Which one would you prefer and why? Kindly share your thoughts.
© Josephine Amoako 2017
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