As if having to toil endlessly through school to earn a decent degree isn’t enough, now one has to worry about the battleground which is the job market and play the reality show called the survival of the fittest. Just as the fingers are all not equal, it is unrealistic to expect that we all start out on the same level.
Influential parents, family friends and relatives help put some ahead than others. Some are noticed for their hard work and earn a place; and some are placed behind a desk as a favor to some friend or church member. The ‘whom you know’ versus ‘who knows you’ continue to race for the first position for recruitments in Ghana’s corporate world today.
And for those of us who barely know anyone in high places, we are left at the mercy of unscrupulous bosses who prey on our vulnerability and despair to earn a living. There are countless stories of female job seekers who are required to sleep with the boss before being given the job regardless of her qualifications. They know people are desperate and most applicants would succumb to the pressure. How shameful.
This unfortunate turn of events is slowly becoming an uncomfortable norm. Some ladies agree to it thinking there is nothing to lose with doing it just once. But they realize with shock that the business between the sheets was not going to be a one-time transaction; it was supposed to be an ongoing thing to sustain their employment status like a twisted maintenance culture.
As long as one agrees to the terms, one continues to keep her job to the next month till she finally says ‘enough’ and quits. These men strip these ladies of their dignity and get the keep their privileged positions whiles the women lose what they were trying to hold on to and try another place hoping not to meet the same fate.
These unassuming-looking bosses definitely have wives and daughters who expect that they would be respected in their workplaces and only have their skills demanded and not their bodies. So why demand sex from other women young enough to be their sisters and daughters? It’s pure evil.
How can women be truly empowered to achieve their fullest potential if they are made to lose a part of themselves with each climb up the ladder? No wonder successful women are sometimes insulted of having bribed their way up in ‘kind’ to achieve what they have.
The growth of every society depends on the holistic health of its women. If you as a man would feel disgusted that your wife, sister or daughter had to sleep with someone to get and keep a job; then have a good conscience not to ask of it from someone else’s. It definitely won’t end well for you.
And to my fellow ladies under pressure to give in to get a job, please don’t give in. If you do and get the job, you still lose something more valuable than the money earned. Your self-worth doesn’t carry a price tag. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Hold on to your integrity; God will come through for you.
Bribery and corruption exists in high places and we mostly think of it as embezzlement of funds; but even worse is receiving bribes in the form of sexual favors. And please remember, it’s not everyone in a skirt and blouse that you sleep with. Enough said.
© Josephine Amoako 2017
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