Although I don’t doubt there are some life stories which support the narrative, I also think that assuming a ‘rich’ person’s kids are spoiled brats is more of a stereotype. Not every rich kid ends up lazy and spoiled and not every poor kid grows up to be hardworking and responsible. What children grow up to become is less dependent on their parents’ social status and more on the parenting itself.
Being described as rich or poor is relative. Someone’s description of ‘rich’ could be another’s ‘middle-class’ where most people fall these days whereas ‘poor’ is usually used to define the working class who may not able to afford a family car or a self-owned house at the moment but poverty is way below that, isn’t it? It’s like poverty has been given a definition upgrade in our society these days.
There are several inspiring grass-to-grace stories which encourage us to believe in our dreams no matter how unfortunate your background might be. However, there are some people from same backgrounds who are neither hardworking nor grateful for the efforts their parents are making. They resign themselves to having no bright future and thus go around playing truants, petty thieves and neighborhood terrorists for the fun of it.
There is no guarantee that being poor would make your children hardworking; likewise becoming rich implying raising spoiled kids. Maybe the narrative was so in the 20th century but things are changing now. Parents no matter how successful they are, are training their children to achieve something for themselves and enjoy the fruits of their labor; whiles some ‘poor’ kids are lazing about, thinking their parents owe it to them to help them make it in life. They prefer to blame their situations on their poor background and non-existent family support instead of facing the challenges head on and making something profitable out of their skills and energy.
Poverty is not a good thing; to assume that it is so as to have hardworking children is outrageous. To live a comfortable life should be everyone’s right; yet not an excuse to raise spoiled kids.
I don’t intend to be poor; neither do I want to raise spoiled kids. I would want to give them the best of opportunities that I wasn’t exposed to growing up but trained to be responsible, hardworking and grateful for the given opportunities and not grow up with a sense of entitlement.
Poverty is terrible; an unfortunate situation many people find themselves in; but should never be a willing choice.
What do you think? Which one would you opt for and why? Kindly share your thoughts.
© Josephine Amoako 2017
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