What Makes One A Natural Girl Anyway? 


What makes one a natural girl anyway?
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We now find ourselves in a time where many black/colored ladies are going natural with their hair for several reasons; some to fully identify with their roots, others because they can’t stand the relaxer torture anymore, some others because it’s in vogue and so want to join the trend.

I’ve recently come across photos of brides who decided to celebrate their big day makeup free going viral on social media as if it is some strange behavior being brought to people’s attention. 

Whiles some are proud of their dark chocolate skin, others prefer to lighten it so they would look fair. I sometimes wonder who they are trying to look like; African Americans maybe?

Nail painting has evolved into a whole new beauty/cosmetology on its own; it has grown into an art and therapy of some sorts. Whiles some still patronize the one-color trend for all fingers, others have moved on to two colors being swapped intermittently and there is the emerging ones with particular details/designs of all or some fingers. As I said, it’s an art now.

Some prefer to stay ‘natural’ by growing their own nails and leaving it polish-free; others would use neutral Cuters to add a little shine to their natural look. At the end, no matter what choice one makes in terms of hair, nails and makeup is to make one feel beautiful and confident about herself.

I admire those who have cut off their permed hair to start afresh knowing how much time and care is required to grow and keep the kinks in good shape. Some look really good wearing them; others look scruffy. But I find it quite unfair when comments are made to suggest that perming your hair is betraying your roots; that hair was not meant to be relaxed and the like.

It’s neither here nor there when one calling herself a natural girl because of her kinks wears artificial nails instead of keeping them bare just as they are. The same goes for the one who doesn’t wear makeup and yet decides to wear hair extensions. What about those who choose not to wear artificial nails but prefer continental dishes to the local ones because eating them makes them look modern and sophisticated?

The point is, it is most likely that although some of us are claiming to go natural in one area, we are using some products in other areas though there is the choice not to use them. So why rub your true Africanness into the faces of others when some other beauty or lifestyle choices defeat that claim?

The world as one global village is evolving and fortunately/unfortunately some individual cultures find themselves being swallowed up by the western ones. It is not practical to resist change absolutely; we are likely to be influenced by it in more ways than one. So let’s embrace the positives of change and be wary of the negatives.

Let’s not reduce the identity of one’s culture or race to the beauty choices one makes. You are not a true African just because your hair makes you look so; you become one when you imbibe the values that have passed down to you. It is pointless to have a ‘naked’ face and naked fingers under the guise of being natural when you utter and type invectives all over when you want to make a point. Polite speech and a general decent attitude is what should qualify you as African; not your outward appearance.

So to all the ‘natural’ girls out there, you are respected for the choices you make; but please don’t declare yourself comparatively superior to another because of them. We are all natural in one aspect and so not in others so let’s move on from there and work towards making Africa great, what do you say?
© Josephine Amoako 2017

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41 Comments Add yours

  1. I’d say you are right, it’s true that Africans have somewhat discarded the old culture to embrace the western culture, in a way it’s good to let go of some irrelevant cultural practices, but one shouldn’t forget their root in the process. Amongst all you mentioned, I personally have an issue with the black girls who have joined the bleaching brigade, why would you want to bleach? Is it that you don’t like your colour? Or that God made a mistake making you black? I think girls that bleach have low self esteem issues that needs to be checked. For the black girls being natural might not necessarily mean keeping a natural hair, nails, or not wearing a weave or make up, but it means understanding or identifying your real roots, which is Africa and representing your nation, by showcasing your cultural heritage and upholding cultural values.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, I’ve an issue with skin bleaching as well. And you are right about it means to be African. Thanks for reading and sharing your insight.

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      1. Always a delight to read from you. ❤

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Thanks, Ella ☺

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  2. Such a great post! I loved every bit of it and it made me think how true it is. You’re truly a great blogger ❤

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh thank you, Aleeya! ☺

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  3. joliesattic says:

    Great post. What is her why and don’t be fake about it is what you’re saying if I understand you. Right?
    One of the things I’ve noticed in the states is wigs. Lots of them. But, I have to admire the black women, because they aren’t afraid to experiment wildly. I don’t understand their need to but I have to say on some, they carry it off well. They love style. Whether they wear makeup or not is not important, but that they do it as an enhancement, emphasizing their natural features is. But that is true of any woman whatever her race. Your examples as case in point. Beautiful.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I agree Jolie, it’s only an enhancement. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts ☺

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  4. Lo-site says:

    You have hit the nail on the head. Its so true that some people sometimes feel that they are more African because of the way in which they do things. I personally have a problem with people who always want me to ralx my hair. I have been keeping my hair natural for about 6 years now. I always have people say I should relax my hair so that I can look white. It always annoys me when someone says that and it is even more annoying when the same person pretends to like your hair natural when they hear a white person saying they love your hair.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha… Plain hypocrisy. You shouldn’t relax it.. From your photo, I can see you really rock it. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts ☺

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  5. zaram says:

    I completely agree with you Josey. Being natural has more to do with the interior than the exterior.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I’m glad you agree, Zaram. Thanks for reading ☺

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      1. VinX says:

        You are welcome, dear

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  6. M'afua Awo Twumwaah says:

    I support most of your views. I remember changing on a tweet which shamed black women for patronising wigs. I found it so absurd. I believe lifestyle choices are personal and by and by rooting for Africa is more in what value we add than what we merely say.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      It is indeed absurd, M’afua. And I agree with your stance as well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ☺

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  7. Papberry says:

    I say yes!
    Well written
    Blessings…

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, dear☺

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      1. Papberry says:

        You’re welcome

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  8. As a natural haired girl, I agree. We are all different. natural hair takes time, patience and some people just do not like their hair kinky. Irregardless we are all beautiful.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes we are… Love your hair! Have a great day, dear☺

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    2. AskDaralynn says:

      Not all natural hair takes time and patience . A Caucasian person without color treated hair or a perm is natural as well. I don’t mean a relaxer…that is for course hair.

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      1. joseyphina says:

        We, I was mainly referring to the African kind of kinky hair not the Caucasian one.

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      2. AskDaralynn says:

        Oh. Ok no problem. I look forward to more of your blogs.

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  9. joyegeorge says:

    You make some great points. God made us all different and beautiful as we are. Though makeup and other beauty products are great ways to enhance self-confidence, they shouldn’t be used to cover up the natural beauty that God gave you. 🙂

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Exactly! I’m glad you see it that way as well, Joye. Thanks for passing by ☺

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  10. Pow!!! True that!!! Great post…insightful.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you for reading ☺

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  11. AskDaralynn says:

    I’m not sure what you mean by making Africa great. However, many people forget ((male and female) Natural doesn’t relate to skin color. It relates to anyone of any race whom deems themselves as chemical free. The word natural doesn’t symbolize a woman of color with course hair. Relaxers are for course hair, perms are for straight hair, and color ( dyes) is for any hair type. If it is free from these items you are natural.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I agree but most ladies in my side of the world think so and that’s why I remarked that being natural should go beyond the use of products… Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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      1. AskDaralynn says:

        I enjoyed reading it beautiful lady.

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      2. joseyphina says:

        I’m glad to know that, Daralynn

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  12. I agree with you, most of us say we are natural because our hair is but keep using chemicals for the other part of our lives like skin, nails, food, health etc…… I love going out make up free but most people frown at this. Whenever anyone sees me using Shea butter, coconut oil, honey etc on my skin, they will tell me “you are already too dark, those products will make you darker” When I started my natural hair journey, there were too many discouragements from friends and family but I didn’t allow that to pull me down. It actually made me stronger…… Thanks for this insightful post.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Hmm… As if being dark is a bad thing… Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  13. Nedson says:

    Something I needed to read.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, Nedson.

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