Prenup Is The New ‘I Love You’ 💑 


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It kind of looks like one can’t confidently trust the declaration of the three magical words these days. For those in the lower class, they may not have this fear because both parties know what they are getting themselves into with money being on the low and all. But unfortunately for the self-acquired rich or beneficiaries of some family wealth, falling love is risky business. You could wake up one morning and before you yawn to greet the day, half of your properties is being yanked from you. 

For the affluent, one can never truly be sure that their partners love them for who they are or for how much they are worth. Each day which passes by could be the day one could get the biggest shock of his or her life. I want a divorce. No one can fully prepare for the bombshell as one can’t tell what could trigger it. Could it be a fight about coming home late, picking calls at odd hours, to be caught lying about one’s whereabouts or one’s decision to come out of the closet? One can only wait to find out.

Due to all the insecurities that come with wealthy matrimonies, the rich have decided to wise up and take precautions. The gold diggers of today don’t wear the obvious look anymore. No matter how many promises are made on the throes of passion, one needs some substantive guarantee.

Now, let me introduce the new and more trusted way of showing one’s love: signing the prenup papers. It is one hard proof of saying that Im not with you for the money; I just want to grow old with you, watching the sunset on the beach. Some would say bringing up the prenup takes the romance out of the matrimony and makes it more of a contractual arrangement.

It may or may not be true as I watched a clip of a couple who actually signed the prenup papers at their reception in front of everyone to prove their love for each other before even cutting the cake. If that’s not romantic, then I don’t know what else is…lol. But I understood why they did that because the bride was a divorce attorney so I’m sure she had seen enough of nasty divorce proceedings so she was only protecting herself. 

It’s unfortunate that people would pretend to love others so they can get married to them and later have half of their wealth handed to them especially when they didn’t contribute a penny to the fortune. As one attorney put it,

the best job for a pretty lady to have in this 21st century is to get married to a wealthy man without a prenup.

It is pathetic but one can’t deny it’s true. 

I wonder what would be the new three magical words in the next century. I only pray love doesn’t become a scarce commodity by then.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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17 Comments Add yours

  1. Ufuomaee says:

    Hi Josey,

    It wasn’t really clear to me. Are you for or against the prenup?

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Well, I didn’t state my stance on it. I just wrote my observation on the issue.

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      1. Ufuomaee says:

        OK. So, may I ask for your stance, if you have one?

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      2. joseyphina says:

        I would not go for it personally but I wouldn’t oppose anyone who decides to do that. Everyone is entitled to his or her position

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      3. joseyphina says:

        Do you have a stance?

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      4. Ufuomaee says:

        Reading your post, and thinking about it critically, it is easy to sympathize with the billionaires. But the message that prenups are acceptable can only be for the world, and not the Church. It is contrary to Christ. Even to be Christian we forsake all to God. How then should we marry without forsaking all and choosing to trust our spouses, and committing to NEVER divorcing? I don’t think it is a matter or people’s opinions or feelings, it is about LOVE. We must not trade our definition of love, found only in Christ, for the world’s.

        Cheers, Ufuoma.

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      5. joseyphina says:

        I agree, for Christians we forsake all to God and it is a a matter of love. But unfortunately for the world, they can’t trust the love they claim to have for one another hence, the issue. Thanks for sharing your insight, Ufuomaee. Always appreciated.

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  2. I don’t think it’s only for the affluent. I have a prenuptial agreement, and I wrote mine myself.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh okay… Of course, it wouldn’t be exclusive to the affluent; just that their risk is higher lol. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Alexis.

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      1. We all take risks in marriage. Better safe than sorry 🙂

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Quite understandable

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  3. McApple says:

    Nice thoughts Joseyphina.
    Love has become very complicated and very unpredictable I guess.
    Christians who should know better are gradually becoming the most heart breakers and comfort seekers in marriage.
    But after all we are humans first before Christians Huh?
    Nonetheless a prenup doesn’t erase any emotional breakdown that comes with divorce I guess. Maybe at least it does give a false satisfaction that you didn’t lose everything after all; but doesn’t erase the fact that it reduces marriage from a covenant to a contract.
    Keep writing…cheers!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Exactly, Prenup doesn’t really cushion one against the heartache of divorce. May God continue to teach us how to love wholeheartedly!

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  4. gracelarbi says:

    Marriage first of all was instituted by God. So called modernization has made us deviate so much that we tend to follow worldly styles when it should be the other way round.
    My opinion on pre-nups? …..not for the Christian marriage….whatever happened to loving with all of you and growing a relationship on trust.
    Divorce is never an option once you marry but can it happen ?…yes…but still no excuse for pre-nups.
    We have brought in all these things into marriage pre-empting the marriage before we go in…hence the high divorce rates!….That is just starting on the wrong footing of mistrust.
    Trust me pre-nups don’t guarantee a perfect marriage…its work , work, work and determination to make it work.
    And should the divorce come up, the issue of pre-nup just worsens everything and makes the pain and stress of it x2.
    Life generally has its ups and downs and so does marriage so we better look at it from that angle and work at it!
    And doesn’t the vow says “for better for worse; for richer and for poorer”…. the money could be today and like wind be gone the next day or vice versa so …….I rest my case!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you, Grace! You’ve said it all. Love and trust should be key and Prenup may sound like an exit plan. For us Christians, we go all in and trust God to hold it together and also we put in effort as well. Thanks for sharing your insight with us☺👏

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  5. Mandy says:

    This is very true. I actually planned on putting up a post on this issue. You beat me to it. Lol. Nicely written.

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