We enter a shop to buy what we know of and possesses a certain quality that we can trust. We pay the price because we expect the best from the purchased product. As long we see the logo on the package, we can be assured we have the genuine item.
But at other times, we buy things not necessarily per the quality we may wish for but by what we can afford. The vendor displays his marketing skills by convincing us why X is the best and is deserving of the price mentioned. We purchase it hoping that we won’t regret it when we get home. Sometimes, we do; sometimes, we don’t. And how peeved we get when we get duped; getting nothing or less of what we expected. If we’re lucky, we have the chance to return it. But most often, we don’t. We have to make do with it whiles scolding ourselves each time we see or use it. And with time, we find that it wasn’t as bad as we thought. Or is it a way to comfort ourselves for our bad judgment?
It happens with our relationships with people as well. We meet others and they put up a front so pleasant that we think that they are the best match for us. We let them in-into our workplaces and we begin to see another side of them. We get married to them and then wonder who the hell we got hooked up with. We ask ourselves whether we were not paying attention to detail or if we saw what we wanted to see.
At least with items, we can return them and demand a better product. With employees, we can warn them to sit up or face the exit door. But what about when we have already entered into a permanent commitment with them? Do we make do with what we’ve got or walk out with the excuse that we didn’t sign up for their drama?
With fruits, we can be sure of the taste when we buy it. If you are a lover of apples, you buy it expecting it to taste like one. You may like oranges too but you buy an apple because that’s what you feel like eating. But what if you go home to cut it into half only to see an orange within it? Do you throw it away or taste it to be sure that’s what you’re seeing?
We connect with people expecting them to act a certain way per how we perceive them to be.
But people are complicated than fruits and phones. Everyone has his/her own operating system.
As we get to know them better, we discover there’s more to them than we initially thought: sometimes even better than we could imagine. It is up to us to keep an open mind when dealing with people because as for surprises, there will be countless.
We are all products of nature vs. nurture and the combinations of the various personalities may be seen in an exceptional way. Just as some behaviors are learned, they can also be unlearned if we give people the chance and support they need.
We are not what we look like. But don’t be quick to write anyone off; who knows, you could find a trait you didn’t even know you needed to complement yours.
© Josephine Amoako 2016