What Do You Wish For Those Who Offend You? 


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We keep saying and hearing the popular phrase, “If wishes were horses, beggars would be riders.” We usually assume that our wishes are mere thoughts with no effects if not backed with action. But what if we are wrong? What if our wishes (the bad ones) that we voiced out actually happened? Would we feel happy about the outcome?

I’m sure almost everyone is guilty of entertaining some bad wishes in their heads for the people who have offended us. We barely expect them to come true; but it does help us feel better to wish them ill for a while as if that would be an exact payback for the hurt they caused us. 

They say revenge is a meal best served cold. And everyone on a revenge mission should dig two graves. No amount of revenge can fully fill in the grief we feel; it only widens the vacuum of discontentment we feel inside. Why not save ourselves the trouble and let it go?

 I was told of this alarming story about my father’s brother. Apparently, his sister was gravely ill and it looked like she wasn’t going to make it. So the brother said out of despair that how he wished he would die in his sister’s place if that was possible. Amazingly, he fell seriously ill some days later and died. The sister recovered but also passed some years later. I’m sure he meant well; he wanted his dear sister to get better but unfortunately, his wishes came true and for what exactly? She still died anyway. Who knows what he could have become if he were to be alive today?

Someone may pass a demeaning comment about our person or situation and out of anguish, wish them the worst for the rest of their lives. Why sentence someone’s life to an eternity of pain over a moment of hurt that would last only temporarily? And besides, no matter how careful we might consider ourselves with our words, there are moments we also lost control of our tongue and uttered something hurtful to someone. Maybe we apologized, maybe we didn’t. We might even have forgotten we said such a thing. Oh, it was just a joke; nothing serious. But the receiving party may not see it that way.

If people had to wish ill of us after every ‘seemingly harmless joke gone wrong’, where do you think we would end up by now? The truth is, as long as the sun rises and sets, people will offend us both deliberately and accidentally. It is up to us to deal with it in the best healthy way possible.

Teens may find themselves clashing with parents over choice of clothes, company or hangouts. Out of frustration, they might wish that they had no father/mother to make their lives miserable. They might say this because their friends living with either father or mother might be living their lives more freely and would want that for themselves too. If only they knew how their friends also wished that they lived with both mother and father who would care about what they did with their lives. 

Thank God He doesn’t answer wishes that doesn’t mean well for us. If He did, we would be the losers at the end.

When someone offends you, kindly make up an excuse for him/her and move on. Let it go and live your life. There’s no point holding yourself bound to resenting someone who may be living his life with no recall of what he might have said to you. 

Wish everyone well; both your sympathizers and haters. Who knows, as you do, someone else would be doing same for you.
© Josephine Amoako 2016

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29 Comments Add yours

  1. Ganzymalgwi says:

    On my part I wish them well.

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  2. This can be hard but I try to not dwell on what they have done to me so I can just move ahead…And eventually, I even forget they exist. This has worked for me…

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s great, Deb. 👍

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  3. Lori Carlson says:

    Such a beautiful and inspiring piece, Joseyphina. And one we definitely need for all of the crazy-making that has been going on in the world of late (especially in the US). Thank you!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… Yeah, can imagine! Thanks for reading, Lori☺

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      1. Lori Carlson says:

        My pleasure hun 🙂

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  4. Lori Carlson says:

    Reblogged this on As the Fates Would Have It and commented:
    Beautiful, inspiring and definitely needed.
    Comments are disabled. Please visit Joseyphina’s blog to leave a comment. Thanks.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks, Lori. Really appreciate it 😊

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      1. Lori Carlson says:

        You are so welcomed, Joseyphina 🙂

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  5. vhuvu says:

    I’m learning how to see that no matter what anyone does to me they still deserve good thoughts from me. Learning. Lol. One day at a time.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah… Learning… It’s a working progress.

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  6. nondalo says:

    I used to be quiet, but entertain bad thoughts about them.. but God delivered me from that years ago. It was the way I stored up anger and bitterness in my heart.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, it makes bitterness creepy into us. Thank God for His deliverance 🙌

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  7. Stephanie says:

    I’m not going to lie, this post was exactly what I needed to read today. I had an incident happen recently and I’ve been wishing ill on my attacker when in reality, I should be wishing they receive the help that they so desperately need. Thank you!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, Stephanie! I’m glad I could help. ☺

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  8. Doris says:

    Good post Joseyphina!!! I was always taught to never ill wish anyone as that is not my place nor would I want to mess up my own karma, but I think you did a great job at explaining why it is so important that we never stoop to the level of wishing bad on anyone as we would not want those same ill wishes to fall on us. 🙂 Keep it up girlie

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for taking the time to read, Doris. Really appreciate it😊

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  9. Keith Haney says:

    That was so beautifully written. You really made me stop and think. It is better to not seek revenge. I heard it said once if you practice, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth what you have is a bunch of eyeless and toothless people.”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… I agree. It’s better to let go than to seek revenge. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Keith 👍

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      1. Keith Haney says:

        My pleasure I look forward to reading more. I am now following your blog.

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Good to know. So am I. ☺👍

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      3. Keith Haney says:

        I pray it is a blessing for you.

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  10. Ufuomaee says:

    I don’t know if God doesn’t answer wishes that are not good for us. The example you gave of the man who wished to die in his sister’s place is one. And who is to say God is the on who answers wishes… I know He answers prayers, but wishes…? Not sure.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Exactly, God answers prayers, not wishes. But sometimes, the things we say can hurt us in the end.

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      1. Ufuomaee says:

        Yes, I agree with that. There are spiritual elements at work, and the self-fulfilling prophecy too…

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  11. I LOVE this!!! I try to pray for everyone… friends… and those who I don’t necessarily mesh with.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s great! God bless you for that🙌

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  12. This is very true! Try to send happiness to those who offend you!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes… Repaying good for evil is the way to go!

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