Motherhood and Weight Gain: What Men Need To Know 


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Aside considerations of one’s character, vision among other things people look out for in choosing a partner, the physical attraction is on the check list too. Not everyone sees it as that important, but for some, the body type matters a great deal. Whiles some men fancy the plus size, some prefer the model size, well-endowed in the right places with a flat tummy.

The wedding bells ring and it is all bliss. After a few months, the men may have put on a little weight and it is usually attributed to the wife’s good cooking. His weight gain becomes a ‘compliment’ to the wife. It shows the world that he is a man well-taken care of. 

Pregnancy sets in and the woman’s body begins to change sometimes to the utter shock of the men. What is happening? Who did I get married to? Some men are able to recover from the shock early enough and appreciate the changes. After all, she’s carrying my baby, right? But unfortunately, not all men see pregnancy as a big deal. They think their wives use that period to make them their ‘slaves’. And so they decide to stay out longer, leaving her to deal with it by herself. That’s a story for another day.

So the baby comes, all bouncy and healthy and everyone is happy. Another comes and there’s yet another. This means the woman’s body would have been stretched and contracted about three times and for most women, returning to their former body size is almost impossible. Not because they have grown complacent about taking care of themselves but because life happens. 

Considering all the adjustments she’d have to make to raise the kids and manage the home, it is kind of unfair for a man to make a mean comment about her weight gain. Just a look of displeasure at her body is powerful enough to crush her self-esteem. But to throw it in her face and tell her to do something about it with no care for her feelings is hitting below the belt.

Hearing a story about a woman in such a situation and the husband refusing for her to go to the gym for fear that something might happen between her and the gym instructor broke my heart. At least she has identified that she needs to do something about her weight and she’s willing to make an effort for both their sakes’. But his insecurity stands in the way.

I know we see on social media about how some celebrities return to the plus 8 sizes a few weeks after childbirth and God knows what they put themselves through to get their shape back but everyone’s body is different and thus adapts to changes differently.

So dear men, know that women care about their bodies more than you think. Appreciate them when they make an effort. Weigh your words before speaking them. It’s your words and actions that would make her feel loved or unloved. Just as society may excuse a slight pot belly to your advancing age, kindly cut your women some slack about their weight. Pregnancy/motherhood isn’t easy.

As much you would want them to submit to you, know that you’re required to love them regardless of weight loss or gain. We are all born with feelings so always keep that in mind.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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13 Comments Add yours

  1. McApple says:

    Great!
    It’s an education every man needs.
    God bless!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      I’m glad you agree! God bless you too and have a great day! 😀

      Liked by 1 person

  2. niifakye says:

    Thanks Josey for the advance education. Salute.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      You’re welcome, Nii. Thanks for reading. Have a nice day ☺

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Ganzymalgwi says:

    This an insightful post. It will help solve many marital problems if read and understood by men. Thank God I read this before marriage.
    Keep it up.

    Like

  4. Taushell says:

    I love this post honestly. And to be frank I don’t have any kids. But the joy that I get from reading about mother hoods excites me. I’m waiting humbly on exploring motherhood.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Same here, Taushell. Thanks for reading ☺

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Papberry says:

    Gospel truth dear.
    When the pressure comes from the environment it’s easy to overcome when you have support from within.
    What happens when your partner for life is part of the external forces hitting at you sake of your weight after giving birth to 3 set of twins.
    I pray this post gets far to everyone who needs a change in attitude concerning these issues and more.
    We must all accept that sometimes life happens and sometimes as humans as we are, we do not have total control over certain things.
    Bless you dear.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Bless you too☺😘

      Liked by 1 person

  6. iKomusana says:

    Beautiful, informative, strong, powerful

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you! ☺😊😅

      Like

  7. Elorm says:

    Thank you for sharing this Josephine. Some men need to hear it!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Yes they do! Thanks for reading, dear☺😊

      Liked by 1 person

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