The Prayer of a Sorry Ex


It is always said one doesn’t fully appreciate the value of something or someone until it or he/she is gone. We also say that good is the enemy of great; and even when we find what is best, our eyes still can’t stop looking for something better.

Some people find amazing partners with whom they could spend their lives together but along the line, what they first appreciated as amazing feels normal and out of anticipation for something fun and exciting, they risk it all chasing another. Talk of eating your cake and having it.

So there’s a break up and they both move on. But the greedy one realizes that it was a mistake and turns around only to find out the other has found someone else. Now watching from a distance, it dawns on him that she was the best thing that ever happened to him (or vice versa). He can’t blame anyone but himself for losing such a gem and wishes the best for her. She deserves better. He hopes he makes her happy. That’s the usual wish an ex would have considering the fact that he betrayed her, right?

Well, I’ve learnt that there are no more obvious answers to such questions. Apart from the psychopaths we see in our usual TV detective series who chase their exes around never wanting them to be happy, it seems some people can’t let go and wish the worst for their past loves. I happened to listen to Joe’s song ‘So I Can Have You Back,’ on radio recently and though the rhythm was the usual cool love song one would listen to, the words kind of shocked me.

Just to be sure of what I had heard, I downloaded it so I could listen to it again. Wishing that the one who has taken his place would make an unpardonable mistake and breaks her heart just so he could have her back seemed like the very opposite of a love song. Usually, it goes like one regretting the mistake made and the wish that he could go back in time to correct it. But to wish that she would return to him out of a broken heart doesn’t sound right to me.

I figured that one would want to be reunited with a past lover out of personal conviction that he was the best for her in spite of how great her new relationship might be faring. But to wish doom for her new relationship doesn’t spell true love to me. It only sounds like ‘if I’m unhappy, so should you’.

Personally I believe that we are all bound to make mistakes in relationships. But when it ends and you both move on, be mature to wish well for him/her. If you two are meant to be, you would end up back together. But entertaining and pronouncing negative thoughts over them only shows how impure your feelings really are. Just my thoughts.

Some would say it’s a cool song to listen to but I doubt anyone would be happy to hear an ex praying such hopes over him/her. You may have a listen and share your thoughts.

© Josephine Amoako 2016.

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14 Comments Add yours

  1. Nana Yaa Ntiwaa Asare says:

    Nice piece

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, Nana Yaa ☺

      Like

  2. Ufuomaee says:

    I completely agree with you! Thanks for bringing this to our attention. It’s revealing the direction love is taking in the world, where self is the centre! How pathetic 😦

    Liked by 4 people

    1. joseyphina says:

      I know, right? Love is supposed to be selfless and not self-centered. But it’s the world so yeah

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  3. Tareau Barron says:

    Could also be psychological. Some people as you say are greedy and get jealous when you find someone. Also the “change” factor. If a man changes a woman (or vice versa) for the greater good, you are putting in work lmao. Then if they leave you, you feel like you are losing an investment. Sad but true

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Investment, huh? Interesting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Tareau

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  4. I strongly agree with your message in regards for how to just wish someone well for themselves (an ex), despite the fact that that period of time has not worked for both of them. I also agree with Luke 6:31 (NIV) in the bible where it says “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” This song reminded me of Marsha Ambrosius’ song ‘I Hope She Cheats On You (With a Basketball Player)’. Why become so crazy over the fact that your ex has decided to move on? We have to learn how to rethink about our situations in the most opposite ways, and for this case: God is making new plans for me in my life to move in a different direction. So I am in agreement with the idea of how we should wish our ex well in their future as we move along in our own.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading and I’m glad you agree, Shakiya. It is better to move on when a chapter in our lives closes.

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  5. Amanya says:

    If he/she can’t be happy you moved on.
    If he/she can’t hope you find the next best thing.
    Or realise and appreciate that you did find a better companion.
    Then he/she was a wolf in a lover’s skin all along.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      My thoughts exactly. Thanks for reading, Amanya. Have a great week

      Liked by 1 person

  6. moniquefille says:

    I don’t want to have an ex! Seriously!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha… I understand, Monique ☺

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  7. DamiLoves says:

    Ex drama… It can be so theatrical. But like you rightly said, life is about learning your lessons and moving on. Wisdom is then applying that knowledge, not wishing heartbreak on another human? That is selfishness not love. Oh well! Like I said drama 😱

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Very true. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Dami

      Like

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