We usually refer to an addict as someone who is over dependent on a substance or activity. Although the word also means being ardently devoted to something (WordWeb) which could be a good thing, it is usually carries a negative connotation. Well maybe, it’s because of how the victims make such dramatic statements with their lives.
Some people, not all, know very well and admit that they are addicted to something for example alcohol. They tell themselves, this would be the last time. They just need it to drown their woes. They try to convince themselves that they are in control. But one shot becomes two, a glass becomes half a bottle and before one is aware of himself, there are empty bottles lying around.
A terrible hangover marks the morning after and a vow is made that such a toxic relationship with alcohol was over. But it takes yet another headache or heartache to drive them back to the bottle. Most of us can identify such addicts and if they are our loved ones, we make strides to get them some help. The intervention may take the form of a serious sit down talk or a drive to a rehab.
Some people face a parallel situation in their love lives. They know their partners are no good for them; all they are filled with is bitterness and hurt in the relationship but they never seem to be able to make a clean break. They break up and when they feel lonely, they remember the good times they have had and hook up again. They tell themselves that it was to have some closure but inwardly, they know better. They know there’s no future to their complicated relationship; they use each other as a temporary fix. When they have descended from their high clouds and face reality, they break up again and the cycle starts over.
Whiles some fall into relapse over the bottle, others do so with their exes. Most addicts only surrender to be offered help after they have lost something valuable i.e. family or loved one and then realize they need to get their act together. Some potentially great relationships have fallen on rocks because one partner was ‘addicted’ to an ex.
Maybe you don’t have a drinking or an ex attachment problem. But we all face risks of running back to certain habits or people who make us the worst versions of ourselves which leave us feeling guilty, dirty and insecure. Perhaps it’s time for us to check into our own ‘rehab.’ Get rid of anything that would tempt you into falling back into relapse. Get some trustworthy people to talk and be accountable to.
Pray to God for forgiveness and strength not to revert. If only we would humble ourselves and seek Him to sort us out, He will take care of our issues and give us a fresh start.
Ready to get rid of your addictions?
© Josephine Amoako 2016