Do you think your life would be relatively easier or harder if you were born as the opposite sex with your actual temperaments and personalities intact?
Hmm. Tough question. Thought provoking. Would my life turn out differently if I were a boy? I’m not too sure it would. Everyone believes life is tougher for his/her own gender and a little easier for the opposite.
Women have to deal with the combined pressure of being proficient of managing their marital homes and excelling in whatever line of work they may be involved in. Men have to be financially stable to be considered ready to start a family and have to be a family man to be considered responsible to take up certain positions.
Ladies have to endure sexual harassment from their bosses at work; guys have to compete with their female counterparts for jobs when the latter has the advantage of using ‘what they have to get what they want.’ Every set of body parts come with its own challenges, it seems.
As a young woman, the societal pressure begins to mount up after you declare yourself a university graduate. It’s like you’re racing against time to do something substantial with your life before the weight of matrimony befalls you. If I were to be a man in my present age, no one would be asking me when I’d be getting married; they would rather be asking if I intend to further my studies, pursue my career or start my own business. Different expectations from both sexes, huh?
If I were a boy, I wouldn’t have to think of any biological clock ticking and having to smile through every awkward situation whenever a family friend asks you when he should expect a wedding invite. I’d have the breathing space to think of what path to pursue and what to achieve for myself. Guys don’t have to worry about any stigmas from being in a little too many relationships when they finally want to settle down. There are many single women available for the taking. But turn the tables, the lady would be referred to with unsavory names because she’s been ‘overused’ and thus unqualified to be a good partner. Why is virtue solely expected of one sex and the other permitted to be carefree with their actions?
If I were growing in a male body, my concern would be adding value to myself, saving more than enough money so as to afford my future family the kind of life I deem decent and comfortable. As a woman, my plans are not that far from that.
Everyone has his/her own headaches as we go through life, having to deal with societal pressures and expectations coupled with personal goals alongside their incidental challenges. Considering my temperament and personality, I don’t think life would be far different from what I’ve experienced if I were born a boy.
I believe God in His infinite wisdom created us all as male and female and deposited in us the courage, strength and talent to live out our purpose here on earth. I wouldn’t want to be a boy for one day in my life. I’m sure the guys would say same if asked the same question. No one is more important than the other. We need each other to procreate, build each other up and make the world a better place.
I’m not sure if one’s cultural background would result in varying responses to the question posed, but I’d love to read your thoughts. Have you ever considered how different, harder or easier your life would have been if you were born as the opposite sex? Why do you think so? Kindly comment and let’s interact.
© Josephine Amoako 2016