I recently happened to listen to a TV discussion on respecting the matrimonial bed and what it stood for. Before listening in, I never really gave much thought to it. But the discussion really enlightened me. The first mental picture that comes to mind when matrimonial bed is mentioned is the bed found in the master bedroom of any married home. Period.
A lot of the movies and TV series we watch seem to portray the same idea. When a woman chances on her husband in bed with another woman or vice versa, we normally hear the words, ‘You could have done your dirty business anywhere else buy you chose to bring her here to soil our matrimonial bed?’ as if cheating in a hotel room shows respect to the marriage. It is as distasteful as one would find it done in the matrimonial home.
When the sanctity of matrimony is reduced to the mere symbolism of the furniture in the room, weak-willed partners can talk themselves into ‘preserving’ their matrimonial bed by misbehaving outside. But if couples are made to understand that by sealing their union in that private room is synonymous to building an altar to the God before whom they exchanged vows, that they have become one, they would consciously make efforts to be faithful to each other.
If the physical furniture in the bedroom is all there is to respecting the marital vows, then it is pointless because furniture can be changed at any time and it may have been settled for because of some financial constraints. Reverence for a divine institution like marriage shouldn’t be limited to the carved wood. The matrimonial bed goes beyond the home, reverence of a marriage covers the very bodies of the partners. Compromising oneself in the minutest sense breaches the sanctity of the union.
So spouses shouldn’t settle for knowing that their partners are cheating on them because the act is not performed on the bed they sleep on. It is equally disrespectful.
Even those who claim not to believe in God so don’t hold themselves accountable to any moral code feel humiliated when their partners cheat on them; how much more those who call themselves believers and yet constantly defile themselves in sexual immorality and somehow expect God to be cool with that. The culprits blame the devil for making them fall into temptation when they are caught in the act as if it wasn’t their responsibility to avoid temptation in the first place. Before anyone does anything good or bad, conscious thought is put into it so blaming the devil doesn’t make one any less guilty.
Most marriages of our time including those of Christians fall on the rocks because of infidelity. There is the need for constant reminders of the altars that spouses have built because of their marriage thus the conscious effort to keep it pure and holy in the eyes of a holy God.
© Josephine Amoako 2016