There’s something enticing about ‘forbidden fruits.’ It seems one notices all the appealing features of something more sharply when he knows he can’t have it than someone who already possesses it.
Single ladies observe the ‘mature, manly and protective’ qualities of married men and they want them for themselves in spite of being aware they belong to other women. And we have married men who go in for young fresh ‘babes’ whose anatomy hasn’t weakened and sagged under the pressure of matrimony and childbearing.
I wonder what pedophiles see when they look at children to the point of deciding to force themselves on them but I’m sure they would have their own reasons…as twisted as they would be.
When the influence of enticement gets the better part of someone, there is the risk of a lapse of judgement occurring. The lines between right and wrong become blurred. All that the mind is focused on is getting what he knows he shouldn’t have. If he wants it, then he must get it at all costs!
It is purported that forbidden fruits are more enjoyable than permitted ones. Movies showing single people fornicating or married people committing adultery seem to portray ‘steamy’ scenes where is passion is at an all-time high compared to scenes between married partners. Why is that?
We can have all the good things in the world but when our attention is drawn to the one thing we do not have, it makes us feel like we have been robbed of the best. King David with all the women at his disposal, still had to go for another man’s wife because…he couldn’t look away and say no to his bodily desire.
There were many fruit trees in the Garden of Eden but Eve couldn’t help herself but to have a bite of the forbidden fruit because ‘she saw the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise…’ (Genesis 3:6).
As humanly flawed as we are, temptations to reach for forbidden fruits will definitely come our way but some things are forbidden for a reason. We have been given freewill to go for whatever we want but not all things are profitable. All forbidden fruits are eaten in secret not necessarily because society frowns upon it but because we all have a conscience which convicts us when we are treading the wrong path.
We can’t resist temptations by our own strength. The body is already helplessly weak against fleshy pleasures. We need God’s grace for that. Avoid temptations at all cost. Don’t try to negotiate your way out of it. Flee! Don’t test your weakness to prove your assumed strength. You are human after all.
Don’t do to someone what you wouldn’t wish to be done to you. Cheating husbands would not be amused to find out their wives were cheating on them. Rapists wouldn’t like to be raped or their loved ones to go through the horror they put others through. If it’s not yours, leave it alone and go search for what belongs to you.
If we claim to love God with all that we have and our neighbors as ourselves, we wouldn’t want to offend God and others with our actions. We wouldn’t envy, covet and steal someone’s spouse, position or any possession. When something is termed ‘out of bounds’, it means just that.
© Josephine Amoako 2016