The words we say are pretty powerful. They can cement a relationship or terminate it permanently. Words constructed carefully can soothe an aching soul; words spewed out carelessly can damage your reputation and diminish your respect in the eyes of someone you consider significant which are the least repercussion of its ripple effects.
The words we speak once out of the lips cannot be taken back just like when some text or info is sent via social media. Once it is sent, we lose control of it. One can delete the comment almost instantly but you can’t be absolutely sure that no one read it first. Some people are sensible enough to take a breather to read over whatever they wish to share with the world and edit appropriately before hitting ‘post’ or ‘publish.’ I wonder why some people don’t exercise this same amount of restraint before talking.
If we could really take back anything we could say, I’m sure most people would love that. They would be able to undo many mistakes made in the past and since hindsight is always better, they would tow the better line. As much good as that sounds, I’m also grateful that that option isn’t available. Because this would make me cautious of whatever I say regardless of the mood I am in. If I can take back anything I say, then I can consciously say something hurtful because I feel like it at the moment and take it back as if nothing happened. There would be no need for self-control when it comes to wagging the tongue.
As for hearing conversations around me, I don’t really care for that. The fact that people are talking around you doesn’t necessarily mean they are talking about you. And some conversations are not even worth eavesdropping in. Since I’m not a gossip, I don’t need to hear what is being said around me. I am satisfied with the selective hearing function my ears are performing. Many people talk too much about nothing.
So if I am to choose between the two, I think I’d go for being able to take back what I say. As human as we are, we are all bound to slip at one point no matter how conscious we are of ourselves. Some things are better left unsaid and some others should be said in a refined way. Having to hear conversations around and about you can become a headache; one which can avoided to an extent.
Let me know what you think. Which one would you rather be able to do and why? Love to read your thoughts.
© Josephine Amoako 2016