He watched his father beat up his mother often as a child;
Anytime he returned home in a drunken stupor;
Helpless to save his mother;
All he could do was boil inside with rage;
He swore he wouldn’t end up like his father;
But as they say, a fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree;
Growing up with so much anger and hate;
He ended up diagnosed with a chronic temper;
Flaring up at the slightest provocation;
He kept telling himself he was nothing like his father;
But when he hit his girlfriend the first time;
He couldn’t believe what he had done;
Was he turning into the figure he despised?

She watched her mother disrespect her father as a child;
Her mother insulting him with every chance she got;
Because he had lost a job and couldn’t find another one soon enough;
The more her mum disregarded her dad;
The more he lost respect in her eyes as well;
She could hear the noises she made in the room when men visited her;
Her mother would tell her,

‘in this world, you have to shine your eyes’;
‘You have the body that men want; use it to your advantage’;
‘Don’t fall for useless men like your father’;
‘Love is for fairytales

She later got married but found herself struggling;
To respect her husband as he deserved;
She didn’t want to end up like her mother;
Who contracted a nasty STI which got the whole neighborhood talking;
But as if fate wanted to test her resolve;
History repeated itself and her husband was laid off;
So many times she was tempted to follow her mother’s footsteps;
But she didn’t want to lose him;
So she told him her challenges;
And with prayer and counseling, they made it out of the trial
Stronger than ever;

We are the most gullible during childhood;
Imbibing almost everything we observe whether good or bad;
We follow our guardians’ actions more than their words;
So beware of how you carry yourself around a child;
You might just be joking;
But a kid might pick up an unpleasant word or gesture;
Children are fragile and vulnerable;
Let’s protect their innocence as long as we can;
If we indeed wish for a better world for the next generation;
Let’s show them how it will be like;
Discipline, respect, decent speech and outfit;
Personal hygiene and proper sanitation;
We can at least start with these;
And we would be one step closer;
To the better world we dream about.

© Josephine Amoako 2016


6 Comments Add yours

  1. SyedaFR says:

    Very deep message and wonderfully written!! 👌👌

    Liked by 2 people

    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for reading, Syeda! ☺

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Oluwanifemi says:

    Understanding the depth of domestic violence…good message…do you think it’s at all times that a child follows the foot step of their parents

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      No, not every time. But sometimes what they witness have damaging effects on them

      Liked by 2 people

  3. Tony Michele says:

    Deep. The messages and lessons caught by direct/indirect teaching during childhood can matter a great deal in one’s future.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, they do. Thanks for taking the time to read, Tony.


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