Would You Rather #35: Make a phone Call or send a Text?


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In today’s world, a cell phone is no longer a luxury but a necessity. Everything works instantly now. The time of expecting some news or package through the mailbox is gradually fading out. Every info and communication can be transmitted via the phone. A name pops up in your head and the next minute, you can check up on him/her by dialing a number or sending a text. The word ‘impossible’ is being challenged on every side when it comes to communication.


People like to make phone calls to distant relatives and friends as well as colleagues or business associates so as to have a feel of having a face-to-face communication as close as possible. And thanks to video calls, that feeling can be duly satisfied (unless the internet connection chooses the most inconvenient moment to act up).

With a phone call, you can read someone’s mood through the voice. One can tell if one is being sarcastic or serious by the tone of voice. It is a bit tricky with texts. We all read and interpret sentences differently. What you meant to be funny might come across as throwing shade to the other person. A seemingly harmless text can spark up some unexpected reactions just because the voice in the reader’s head made it sound totally different from how the sender intended it. And talk of the damage autocorrect can cause.

Texting people with fast fingers can be as equally satisfying as talking on phone. As long as the conversation flows, the communication can end on a good note. It only gets irritating when a simple conversation seems to drag for minutes with one party seemingly too busy to give you his/her full attention. People hide behind texting to have serious conversations for fear of it turning out to be uncomfortable if done face-to-face or implicitly let you know they don’t want to continue talking to you by leaving the chat hanging.

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Although one can multitask with both phone calls and texting, phone calls require more attention, one that anyone would appreciate. Making phone calls doesn’t necessarily make one more ‘caring’ than the other; neither does texting more imply you have commitment issues. After all, the satisfaction one derives at the end of the chat is what matters.

For me, it depends on the intent of the chat and whom I’m dealing with. With varying work hours and all, it can be quite difficult finding the right time to call up a friend just to chat. If it is just to check up on a friend, I’d send a text and find out what time would be suitable for a call. I prefer not to have a text immediately replied to than not having my call answered. Somehow, I can make up a thousand reasons why you haven’t replied my texts but no matter how hard I try, I can’t stand not having my missed call returned.

I do text more than make phone calls because I have the liberty of time to think through a question posed and reply appropriately or react to a statement than that of a phone call. I resort to phone calls when there is so much to catch up on or talk about. I believe the best way is to have a balanced use of both phone calls and texts so your text buddy doesn’t feel like he/she is only contacted when you’re bored waiting in line for something and need someone to distract you to while away the time.

What do you do most often, text or call and why? Kindly share your thoughts. It’s always a pleasure to read them.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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36 Comments Add yours

  1. I think I am very similar in that I mostly text because it is faster and easier for both parties, but if there is a lot of information on either end I always prefer a phone call because I either don’t want to type that much or I want to hear them tell the story and hear it in their voice instead of reading it in my own.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, I agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Serena. Have a great week!

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  2. Genie says:

    I don’t have a cellphone, and I don’t intend to buy one, land-lines is what I use, and even then, sparingly. My first choice is to visit with people.
    One of the reasons that I don’t want a cellphone is: Surveillance, I will not willingly cooperate with personal intrusion by governments and big business in my life; which is why I use the TOR browser for all my searches, and reading articles, etc. If it’s good enough for Edward Snowden, it’s good enough for me (it’s the only browser he uses).

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Interesting point of view. I appreciate your sharing it with us, Genie. Have a lovely week ☺

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  3. Beaton says:

    I prefer texting over calling but then it depends. sometimes you want to hear someone’s voice, late night calls before bed type of things but maybe you might have spent the whole day texting each other. sometimes i have text converstaions with nothing but smiley emojis, oh and its cheaper to text lol yeah sometimes you get accused of being an el cheapo ha! well maybe then they should call me instead ha!
    ~B

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… I know, right? It’d be nice to be the one to receive calls once in a while. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Beaton and have a great week! ☺

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      1. Beaton says:

        Thanks have an awesome week yourself
        ~B

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  4. Felicia says:

    Call for sure! Texting is convenient but when there is something that actually needs to be said, calling is way easier. Plus, you can hear the tone and only have to assume facial expressions

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I agree with you, Felicia. Hearing the tone in some conversations is important. Thanks for joining in sharing your thoughts, Felicia. ☺

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  5. mimispassion says:

    I’ll go for phone calls, texts sometimes leave you hanging for hours just wanting to chat. At least if my call isn’t picked up, I’ll presume you’re busy, its better than not having my texts replied

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Mimi. Hanging text conversations can be very frustrating. Have a great week!

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      1. mimispassion says:

        Very frustrating. Have a blessed week too Josey

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  6. piratepatty says:

    Text for sure! Talking on the phone is for emergencies only. We have that rule. Text unless it is an emergency, Momma is busy! lol

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Haha…. I like that 👍

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  7. joymanda says:

    I prefer texting to calling. The only people I call frequently are my parents.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, same here.

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  8. Sykes says:

    Text most definitely. Calls are just….. uncomfortable. Atleast for me anyway. No awkward silences when texting!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… Yeah, none at all. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sykes.

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  9. I prefer texting if the communication is brief and to the point. It’s convenient and can be done in public places without being intrusive. Not fond of group of texts though. They can be almost as obnoxious as group emails.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I know, right? Group Texts can be irritating. I agree with you though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Louise☺

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  10. send a text. gosh, i’m awkward on phones

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… Texting does help break the ice😉

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  11. Ufuomaee says:

    Nice one Josey. I actually thought who cares and what’s the big deal when I saw the heading. But you made good points, as usual.

    I think you overlooked the monetary aspect of both. I guess now with internet you can make free calls and send free messages via whatsapp and other such platforms. But I don’t enjoy calls over data as much as regular calls, and instant messages are far superior to regular text messages.

    I don’t call people much, because I’m not much of a talker. I prefer texts, unless there’s an issue to talk about, then I’d make time to call. And depending on my relationship with someone, I generally prefer texts, because they are less intrusive and you can get straight to the point. But there’s usually lots of formality over calls. I guess my anti-social preferences are showing 🙂

    From my boo, I like both calls and texts, but calls definitely mean more, because of the attention and sacrifice it demands and reflects!

    Thanks for another engaging post 🙂

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, I didn’t talk about the monetary aspects. I am of the view that if someone or something matters to you, then the monetary cost is secondary but you’re right. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts, Ufuomaee. Always a pleasure to read your comments ☺😘

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  12. Ufuomaee says:

    I meant to say, depending on my relationship with someone, I generally prefer RECEIVING texts…

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, I understand. Calls can get awkward sometimes

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  13. elynjay1 says:

    Both are okay but calling must at least dominate texting …depends on the two people involved in this….thank you for sharing..

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    1. joseyphina says:

      And thank you for sharing your thoughts ☺

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      1. elynjay1 says:

        You are welcome and thanks for the follow…. 🙂

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  14. DamiLoves says:

    Love this.

    I think due to time constraints, texting seems to be the easier option. However, I prefer phone calls, as it gives you the opportunity to explain things in detail.
    Hearing someone’s laughter is not the same as reading ‘LOL’.

    ‘People type faster than they think’ is what they say, and if one is emotional I think a phone call is better than a text because words can easily be misconstrued.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      You make very valid points, Dami. I like the part of hearing someone’s laughter compared to lol. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  15. makupsy says:

    I am more of a texter but occasionally I will make a call just to check up on the person on the other end. We had this problem with my boyfriend sometime back. He has crazy working hours and sometimes he doesn’t have time to reply to my texts and I end up texting with no replies. So we decided that phone calls were best. It sucks though because I like reading messages over and over again and now I have to settle for a random “Hi honey have a great day” message. 😦

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Awww….. 😊. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  16. I call, I chat as the occasion and time demand.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Victor

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      1. You are welcome J.

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