In today’s world, a cell phone is no longer a luxury but a necessity. Everything works instantly now. The time of expecting some news or package through the mailbox is gradually fading out. Every info and communication can be transmitted via the phone. A name pops up in your head and the next minute, you can check up on him/her by dialing a number or sending a text. The word ‘impossible’ is being challenged on every side when it comes to communication.
People like to make phone calls to distant relatives and friends as well as colleagues or business associates so as to have a feel of having a face-to-face communication as close as possible. And thanks to video calls, that feeling can be duly satisfied (unless the internet connection chooses the most inconvenient moment to act up).
With a phone call, you can read someone’s mood through the voice. One can tell if one is being sarcastic or serious by the tone of voice. It is a bit tricky with texts. We all read and interpret sentences differently. What you meant to be funny might come across as throwing shade to the other person. A seemingly harmless text can spark up some unexpected reactions just because the voice in the reader’s head made it sound totally different from how the sender intended it. And talk of the damage autocorrect can cause.
Texting people with fast fingers can be as equally satisfying as talking on phone. As long as the conversation flows, the communication can end on a good note. It only gets irritating when a simple conversation seems to drag for minutes with one party seemingly too busy to give you his/her full attention. People hide behind texting to have serious conversations for fear of it turning out to be uncomfortable if done face-to-face or implicitly let you know they don’t want to continue talking to you by leaving the chat hanging.
Although one can multitask with both phone calls and texting, phone calls require more attention, one that anyone would appreciate. Making phone calls doesn’t necessarily make one more ‘caring’ than the other; neither does texting more imply you have commitment issues. After all, the satisfaction one derives at the end of the chat is what matters.
For me, it depends on the intent of the chat and whom I’m dealing with. With varying work hours and all, it can be quite difficult finding the right time to call up a friend just to chat. If it is just to check up on a friend, I’d send a text and find out what time would be suitable for a call. I prefer not to have a text immediately replied to than not having my call answered. Somehow, I can make up a thousand reasons why you haven’t replied my texts but no matter how hard I try, I can’t stand not having my missed call returned.
I do text more than make phone calls because I have the liberty of time to think through a question posed and reply appropriately or react to a statement than that of a phone call. I resort to phone calls when there is so much to catch up on or talk about. I believe the best way is to have a balanced use of both phone calls and texts so your text buddy doesn’t feel like he/she is only contacted when you’re bored waiting in line for something and need someone to distract you to while away the time.
What do you do most often, text or call and why? Kindly share your thoughts. It’s always a pleasure to read them.
© Josephine Amoako 2016