People date for diverse reasons. Some do so for the companionship in the meanwhile as they complete their studies on campus, some enter into relationships so as to fit into their circles, and some others do so with the aim of settling down in the foreseeable future.
Before social media became a penetrable force into our lives, most people usually dated people they encounter during their daily routine-at church, the mall, at a party, at work or via introductions from a third party. They got to know each other by face-to-face interactions without much external influence.
But fast-forward to now, life has become too busy for people to find time to actually meet people for social purposes. Economic situations have compelled people to work overtime most of the time so as to keep up. Hence, social media coming into the scene to salvage the situation for social interactions is a needed solution for today’s world. There are a lot of online dating websites and apps which people patronize to help them find the right one to spend life with.
As much as it has become easier to land oneself a date by viewing hundreds of profiles and trying out the ones which align with one’s personal preference, it is a well-known fact that sometimes, the experience could become disappointing. People embellish their profiles and are later found out to be nothing compared to what they described themselves to be. Not forgetting most social perverts hide behind these apps and websites to prey on unsuspecting people. Although there are some success love stories which emerged from dating people from the online community, there are many other unpleasant accounts about that as well. I guess it comes with the territory.
Blind dates come about when two individuals decide to meet maybe after a third party recommended them to. In this instance, they come to the table with either no idea about each other or the little info gathered from the matchmaker. One might find the profile info more believable depending on the integrity of the one doing the recommendation than the profile info given online. This way, each party approaches the other open minded and ready to expect anything; unlike the date with an online friend where certain perceptions have been formed and expectations are a bit high and thus a higher chance of leaving disappointed at the end of the day.
I love social media; it is great platform to meet amazing people from around the globe but personally, it would be the last place I’d consider to find a date. As many great people that can be found online, there are many more dangerous persons posing as harmless doves. Almost every information shared online has been ‘polished’ – profile photo, age, residence, occupation and even name. I’d rather not find out than to have an awful story to share.
I’m not a fan of blind dates either. I prefer to know someone as a friend first. But depending on who is suggesting it, I might give it a more favorable thought than meeting someone I’ve interacted with online. An online friend turned date has the advantage of reading your profile and thus portraying himself/herself as someone sharing your interests only to find out it was just a façade. But a blind date is like a blank slate; what you find out on the date is what is written on the slate with no or less conceived perceptions.
Although both options are not my preferred mediums, I’d rather go in for the latter since it feels like a safer option as compared to the former.
Let me know what you think. Which option would you choose and why? Any experience with any? Kindly share.
© Josephine Amoako 2016