Would You Rather #31: Date someone you met online or go on a blind date?


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People date for diverse reasons. Some do so for the companionship in the meanwhile as they complete their studies on campus, some enter into relationships so as to fit into their circles, and some others do so with the aim of settling down in the foreseeable future.

Before social media became a penetrable force into our lives, most people usually dated people they encounter during their daily routine-at church, the mall, at a party, at work or via introductions from a third party. They got to know each other by face-to-face interactions without much external influence.

But fast-forward to now, life has become too busy for people to find time to actually meet people for social purposes. Economic situations have compelled people to work overtime most of the time so as to keep up. Hence, social media coming into the scene to salvage the situation for social interactions is a needed solution for today’s world. There are a lot of online dating websites and apps which people patronize to help them find the right one to spend life with.

As much as it has become easier to land oneself a date by viewing hundreds of profiles and trying out the ones which align with one’s personal preference, it is a well-known fact that sometimes, the experience could become disappointing. People embellish their profiles and are later found out to be nothing compared to what they described themselves to be. Not forgetting most social perverts hide behind these apps and websites to prey on unsuspecting people. Although there are some success love stories which emerged from dating people from the online community, there are many other unpleasant accounts about that as well. I guess it comes with the territory.

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Blind dates come about when two individuals decide to meet maybe after a third party recommended them to. In this instance, they come to the table with either no idea about each other or the little info gathered from the matchmaker. One might find the profile info more believable depending on the integrity of the one doing the recommendation than the profile info given online. This way, each party approaches the other open minded and ready to expect anything; unlike the date with an online friend where certain perceptions have been formed and expectations are a bit high and thus a higher chance of leaving disappointed at the end of the day.

I love social media; it is great platform to meet amazing people from around the globe but personally, it would be the last place I’d consider to find a date. As many great people that can be found online, there are many more dangerous persons posing as harmless doves. Almost every information shared online has been ‘polished’ – profile photo, age, residence, occupation and even name. I’d rather not find out than to have an awful story to share.

I’m not a fan of blind dates either. I prefer to know someone as a friend first. But depending on who is suggesting it, I might give it a more favorable thought than meeting someone I’ve interacted with online. An online friend turned date has the advantage of reading your profile and thus portraying himself/herself as someone sharing your interests only to find out it was just a façade. But a blind date is like a blank slate; what you find out on the date is what is written on the slate with no or less conceived perceptions.

Although both options are not my preferred mediums, I’d rather go in for the latter since it feels like a safer option as compared to the former.

Let me know what you think. Which option would you choose and why? Any experience with any? Kindly share.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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36 Comments Add yours

  1. gislyreal says:

    I will prefer someone online as it is more real than a total physical bombarding “blind date”

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Okay… Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Gisele ☺

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  2. Diamante says:

    You speak my mind. I would very much rather have a blind date with no expectations and pretentiousness to want to be so alike. Instead of an online friend turned date with whom in my thinking, you’re trying so hard to have a good time instead of getting to know someone better.
    For me, blind date it is…

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think there’s too much pressure to keep up the bond formed online that it’s difficult to look for the red flags.

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      1. Diamante says:

        I agree with that…

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      2. Diamante says:

        Well, on a blind date, you might never really meet your expectations sitting on the other side of the table, but atleast you both don’t know each other as yet.

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      3. joseyphina says:

        True; there are less expectations so less disappointment

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  3. In this Technological society social media dating is probably here to stay. Blind dates are not as widespread. Personally, both are blind faith. You have to trust to get to know both, whether online or in person since you know very little about the person either way. One thing about social media, you can feel the person out for a period of time according to your discernment and comfort level. You do not have to pressure yourself to date if you do not want to, and you can end contact. If you meet in person, you still run the risk of making yourself vulnerable to a stranger. In many instances, the blind dates are set up by someone you know, so you have a tendency to trust a little more. I say in both situations, the element of the unknown is prevalent. It’s more about a personal preference and comfort. Nice thought-provoking post!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your view on this. You’re right; it all boils down to personal preference and comfort. 👍

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      1. You’re welcome, I enjoyed the post.

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      2. joseyphina says:

        I’m glad you did☺

        Like

  4. Ufuomaee says:

    The blind date through an acquaintance is safer… but if you’re really connected with someone online…and have spoken on the phone…I think it would be exciting to meet with a chaperone. You can invite them to a party, where your other friends will be able so scope them out and check if they’re genuine.

    I think finding someone you connect with is most important… you can begin the search and assessment online before gradually letting the person into your life. EITHER OR really

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, sounds like a good idea. Thanks for sharing, Ufuomaee. Either way, one must be comfortable with the process.

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    2. joymanda says:

      I totally agree with you.

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      1. Ufuomaee says:

        Thanks 🙂

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  5. I really enjoyed online dating! It gave me a chance to weed out guys who I may have been a good match with on paper by having a chance to talk to them first. I met guys who later became good friends, and am getting married in a few weeks to my fiance who I met online.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh wow, congratulations, Jackie! Wishing you all the best. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😄

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  6. joymanda says:

    I prefer the online dating. There are amazing people out there and Ufuomaee has spoken my mind. Perfectly!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice to know your stance on this, Mandy. It’s true, many amazing people exist out there👍

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      1. joymanda says:

        Yeah 😀

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      2. Ufuomaee says:

        You could even do a multi-date thing. Invite a couple, they invite a couple and you get to meet their friends on a safe platform. That’s if you’re ready to meet face to face. I wouldn’t encourage going it alone…for security reasons.

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      3. joseyphina says:

        Yeah, people do that too. It helps put everyone at ease. Thanks for the advice, Ufuomaee ☺

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      4. joymanda says:

        Yeah that’s very true

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  7. Smiling

    Nothing is bad with dat, I guess

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    1. joseyphina says:

      With which one?

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      1. Blind date

        Haha

        : )

        One you find someday
        Over internet
        And wanted to b with

        Though this is truly confusing
        And
        …….

        : )

        Hey! How u doin

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Oh okay… Thanks for your input. And I’m great, thanks for asking! ☺

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  8. kmankata says:

    Either way expectations could be an issue but blind date if I were to choose

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, it depends on how the expectations are managed

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  9. My ex and I met online. So online is best. Blind date for me is so deliberate and awkward but online is just stumbling across someone and just finding them intriguing enough.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, less awkward. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sinawo ☺

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  10. Felicia says:

    I’d say online. I’m a control freak and like to know who I’m with 😀

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I see… Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Felicia ☺

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  11. Josbons says:

    On a blind date, there are no expectations since you don’t know each other. Until you meet then you can decide if you want to continue with the person or not depending on the sort of chemistry between you two. Online dating can really be disappointing because there could be a situation where by you have had chats with the person and you feel a connection and when you decide to meet one on one, he/she might turn out not being who you have thinking about or have imagined. So I will prefer a blind even though I haven’t been in that situation before.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this issue, Josbons. Really appreciate it.

      Liked by 1 person

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