Love wins What exactly?


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Meet Sandy, a lovely young lady born into and raised by a staunch Christian family. She grew up with great enthusiasm to do God’s work and thus joined her parents in their evangelistic travels. Doing God’s work was a priority and she assured herself that nothing would separate her from God. But her life was about to take a different turn.

She had returned back home from a missions field. She bumped into a gentleman she later came to know as Ken. They clicked almost immediately. Sandy had not been in any serious relationship before and she looked forward to the experience with naïve glee. Ken seemed ‘experienced’ in that area but didn’t act condescendingly toward her which attracted her to him the more. She began to nurse thoughts of settling down and raising a family with mini Sandy and Ken running around the house. But there was a problem. Ken was not a believer.

Sandy had listened to countless sermons in church admonishing believers not to be ‘unequally yoked’ with unbelievers; that light has no relationship with darkness. Knowingly entering a marriage with someone who didn’t share your faith was dangerous; the only business a believer had with a non-believer was leading him to Christ. Sandy who was knee deep in love with Ken found herself struggling with this truth.

To her, Ken’s love was heaven sent and she believed she could use her love to draw him to know and accept God. Her mother advised that she should forget about him because she was merely deceiving herself. Sandy took it upon herself as a challenge to prove her mother wrong.

But Sandy underestimated Ken’s position on faith. He was a non-believer not because he had not heard the Good News before or that he had strayed. He was raised in a secular family and he found life comfortable that way. To him, religion was complicated and hypocritical. He made it clear that as much as he loved her and he would reach for the stars if she so wished, he was not interested in knowing her God. Any efforts no matter how subtle in order to make Ken reconsider his position caused him to pull away and take on a defensive stance.

Sandy wouldn’t give up. She believed love could endure and conquer all and that it was possible for her to have both God and Ken in her life. But the harder she pushed, the farther away Ken went and eventually, the relationship ended.

She felt angry with God for not helping her win over Ken. She put on an attitude of indifference whenever she was in church and wouldn’t open her heart to His word anymore. Her mind would wonder to the many times she and Ken argued about certain moral principles and she found herself ‘understanding’ Ken’s point of view. She grew to become skeptical of the things she once was a strong advocate for.

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In a twist of events, they got back together and things were much better between them because Sandy had become more ‘liberal’ on certain issues. Every moment spent with Ken was slowly peeling every layer of her connection with her faith, a compromise she was willing to make. Then the issue of sex came up. Sandy still insisted that she’d only engage in it under the covenant of marriage and that she wanted to keep herself pure for her husband. Ken countered that sex was a beautiful thing, a special experience if shared with someone you truly loved regardless of whether or not they were man and wife.

Besides, if her God was as good as she said and that He wants the best for His children, why would He withhold such a wonderful thing from them? Ken added that entering a marriage as a virgin didn’t guarantee a good marriage anyway so what was the point? Sandy couldn’t win the argument because she herself was in a distant relationship with God. She began to think, what was the big deal anyway?

After an on-and-off series which lasted for more than a year, they broke up again. She found out Ken had moved on with a college sweetheart. But she didn’t want to give up on him. To prove herself as deserving of his love, Sandy decided to hang up her status as a Christian and go on full-time secular.

All counsel from her parents and Christian friends fell on deaf ears. Her point was sometimes you lose some to win some. Maybe she would be able to win him over if she went ‘undercover.’ To her, compromise was the best way to go. She was meeting him half-way. She was proud of her decision that her love won the fight against the limitations of her faith.

What she didn’t realize was that, she didn’t meet him half-way; she migrated from her stance and joined him at his. He didn’t compromise, she did. He stood his ground and won the fight.

When it comes to faith, there is no room for middle ground in a relationship. One has to give up on his/her position so they can truly be one. Light and darkness cannot cohabit. It’s either the light dispels the darkness away or the light goes out to accommodate the darkness.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of Sandys in the world losing the fight because of the love of man which is susceptible to depreciation. Some of you reading this would think it was silly of Sandy to exchange God’s unconditional love for a conditional one and would swear never to make that choice. Good for you if you are able to do that. But for many others, they allow the flesh to decide for them and choose the wrong side. He would think he stands, should watch out so he doesn’t fall.

No temporary pleasure is worth sacrificing eternity with God. Never underestimate the influence of the flesh by entertaining it ‘a little’. Don’t give in to its urges and stand your ground. If your supposed Prince Charming or Miss Right doesn’t believe in your God, then he/she isn’t the one no matter how ‘perfect’ he/she seems. It might be painful to part ways but if you choose God over man, God will give you the man/woman after his own heart.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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24 Comments Add yours

  1. Personally i believe salvation is an individual thing and God is one no matter what religion one belongs to. i have been at this cross road before till today i want to understand unequally yoked because atimes these people know about your God but what they believe, the practices and things they have been comfortable with all thea lives are hard to drop “does love always win?” “does compromise always come in?”, “Do we find that one person always has to drop what they believe it cant be lukewarm

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I believe that compromise is called for on certain things because we all come from different backgrounds but faith shouldn’t be one of them. There’s nothing like being lukewarm

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      1. exactly but see a times the non believer is everything in the partner you envisioned but not faith wise and because you love letting go of sth good is so hard hmmmm..love wins but what bse believers will never understand one choosing love they will think its sth else (anyway….)

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      2. joseyphina says:

        I get your point but if the issue of faith isn’t settled and children come in, how would they be raised? Half-half? The decision should go beyond the feelings of the moment and focus on the bigger picture

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  2. Mehwysh says:

    Valid point. I believe sandy is at fault because she gave up something divine for this unreal love of Universe..! If she had backed off then I’m God would have think of something better for her..It’s always a belief that one should strongly hold on to..very well put..! you are awesome .!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I’m glad you see my point. Thanks for reading ☺

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      1. Mehwysh says:

        mention not..:)

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  3. M'afua Awo Twumwaah says:

    Love versus faith isn’t easy oh. This is one big issue, unfortunately hardly addressed upfront in most Christian circles, sweeping Christians off their foundation. It’s a tough one though. But love, ultimate love should surpass the feeling to what joseyphina mentioned to bugingosharon to see the bigger picture.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I agree it’s not easy but regret over a wrong decision is an awful feeling

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  4. mimispassion says:

    Hmmmm compromise and ‘love’. Interesting read

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      1. mimispassion says:

        Not at all….

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Hmmm… It is well ☺

        Like

      3. mimispassion says:

        Sure👍

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  5. Josh Agaba says:

    Thank you J. I agree. . . people out there end up sacrificing their belief for some cheap and quick feels

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Which is very worrying

      Like

      1. Josh Agaba says:

        God has a way of reaching out to His sheep, I worry myself no more about that. He always wins, He is God!

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      2. joseyphina says:

        Yes He does ☺

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  6. thereader24 says:

    This is a good read for anyone out there who’s battling over writing their own love story or letting GOD,Himself,write for you which really requires faith and patience cause I personally think being in love these days especially for Christians is a stake of faith or feeling…and reading this as a teenager myself is like learning a lesson without even being the one who gets to be in that situation.This is obviously a reminder that we shouldn’t be making decisions base on temporary feelings cause the result may be temporary ,life-long regrets and lastly, I just have to add honestly ,that you’ve done it again you’re more than an effective writer,there is nothing more I could say on your excellence.:)

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    1. joseyphina says:

      You’re very right about Christians in love being a stake of faith or feelings. Thanks for passing by. I’m glad you enjoyed the read☺

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  7. Ufuomaee says:

    Awesome! I wanna Spotlight this 🙂

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Go right ahead! ☺

      Liked by 1 person

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