We all get angry sometimes. Why, because some people are innately irritating and after holding it in for a while, we can’t help but react in equal measure. The difference is how we handle ourselves when we are pushed to that agitated point. Some react in moderation, some recoil and switch on the mute button and there are others who go on full detonation mode. You may be justified in getting angry at someone but after a dramatic outburst, you run the risk of being seen as the bad guy.
But she started it, you may try to redeem yourself but the damage would have already been done. The witnesses to your ‘passionate display of emotions’ would forever remember you by the act. And no matter how good, pleasant and diligent a person you are, you’d always have the tag ‘with a temper’ added to the list when you are being described to a third party. It might not feel fair that your out-of-the-blue flare-up earns a place on your social resume but that’s life. That is why self-control is a necessity we should all be able to afford.
These tantrums happen after prolonged moments of suppressing anger without dealing with them. It’s like the contents of a glass overflowing after having been pressed down a while. The harder you push it down, the higher the bounce back up. Some people go all destructive, throwing, hitting and breaking things amidst screams of rage. When the moment passes, they feel spent and then break down in tears. First, it makes one feel worse about himself and second, possessions are destroyed for an unresolved issue. What may hold sentimental value might be caught in the crossfire and get irreparably destroyed.
When someone annoys you, it’s better to walk it out. In the heat of the moment, harsh words can be uttered which could cause serious damage to personal relationships. Once something is said, it cannot be taken back. No amount of apologies is enough to completely erase the effect it had on the other person. It will surely leave a trace in their mind and heart which can be easily triggered. Spare yourself the trouble and find a way to cool off. When the emotions have calmed down and your mind is thinking straight, then go talk it out. It shows maturity and it saves you a lot of ripple effects.
As for annoying people, be they colleagues at school or work, you’d never run out of them. But it is up to you not to lose yourself when trying to give them a piece of your mind. Don’t let your emotions at the moment speak for your heart. Your mind might be upset but your heart still cares.
Tantrums are nasty; they taint one’s personality. Whether hereditary or environmentally induced, it is possible to curb it. One can’t help but get angry when the situation demands it but don’t let it get the better part of you.
Don’t be quick to get angry, because anger is typical of fools– Ecclesiastes 7:9 (GW).
Don’t let your mouth talk you into committing a sin– Ecclesiastes 5:6a (GW).
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city – Proverbs 16:32 (KJV).
© Josephine Amoako 2016