Would You Rather #28: Be the Youngest or Oldest Sibling?


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For those who are neither, maybe they have imagined at one point how different their lives would have turned out if they were in either shoes. I’m sure there are others who are comfortable with being in the middle. Less pressure from parents to be the responsible one. Less strict. Not pampered too much. Just comfortable.
Being the oldest sibling is tough, I can say that for a fact. I don’t know if it’s because it’s the parents’ first attempt of raising a child, they can get pretty overprotective and extra critical. Maybe they want their first ‘human project’ to turn out ‘perfect’ so they try to control almost every aspect of the first-born’s life. And this can feel suffocating. But their firm grip begin to loosen a bit with the second and third. And by the time the last born is born, the grip would be virtually non-existent and it kind of falls on the first to ensure the last stays in line.

Could it be the society judges the parenting skills of a couple based on how ‘well-baked’ the first born turns out to be hence the need to be extra strict on him/her? I guess I’ll find out when I get there. From personal experience, being the oldest sibling requires you act a certain way, think, talk and dress the part: the perfect replica of their values. But when the youngest behaves in total contrast to the oldest, all they say is ‘Ah well, you know how this generation is like. No matter how hard you try, they will always go their way.” Really?!

By the time the last born arrives, the parents would have experienced most of the tantrums the kids throw so nothing really surprises them anymore. They are a bit more understanding if he/she sees the world differently and chooses to go another path. The youngest sibling finds more freedom to explore life and doesn’t feel the pressure to be the ‘role model’ to be looked up to. Her life is hers and hers alone to live!

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Being born first means you get to experience the earlier stages of your parents’ marriage where they are still adjusting to each other and heads might knock against each other from time to time. You grow as the marriage grows and you witness how things change. The last born comes to just sweeten the pot.

As much as I can’t help but sometimes envy my youngest sister for how easier her life is compared to how mine was, I am glad I popped out first. The experiences I had shaped me into the person I am now and I am proud of my parents for that. And besides if we had swapped places, she would have made my life a living hell. I’m so sure of that.  So I’d rather be the oldest.

Are you the first or last sibling or among the middle ones? Would you have wished your position was swapped with another sibling? Or are you okay with your number, why? Kindly share your thoughts.

© Josephine Amoako 2016

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18 Comments Add yours

  1. piratepatty says:

    In my family I have an older brother and 3 younger sisters. All of us one year apart. My brother was a genius and was in college and out of the house before he was 16, so I was for all intents and purposes the oldest. I was supposed to be arole model but it turns out they didn’t follow a single example I set and they were a bunch of hooligans. As adults however they are all model citizens and have great children. I will take the oldest any day. No hand me downs for me! lol

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice! Thanks for sharing, Patty! ✋

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  2. I smiled as I read the post because it is something I had thought about in the past and arrived at a PERNAMENT conclusion: I would never trade my place as the last born child of my parents. I know what it means to be ‘indulged’ by your parents and older siblings and perpetually be the centre of everyone’s love. Oh how i love it! Smiles!!1

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Good for you, Victor! ☺

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      1. Thank you Joseyphina!

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  3. mimispassion says:

    Being the first isn’t easy as at a point,its difficult to actually see y younger sister as coming of age and still try to take care of her. But I’m glad I made the mistakes she can learn from cuz the mistakes have built me up as well. And I did enjoy my fair share of the goodies that come with being the first

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh great! Challenging it can be at first but it is also rewarding. Thanks for sharing, Mimi ☺

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      1. mimispassion says:

        Sure thing

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  4. leahgray says:

    I have an older sister and a twin sister and I know I would never want to change either of those things. I always looked up to my older sister and aspired to be like her and I always strived to be better than my twin. So both of them, probably unknowingly, made me be a better person.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      That’s great. Having someone to look up to is really important to our growth. Glad you had that. ☺

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  5. The Dutchess says:

    Am the last born, so last…everyone else has to be nice to me. Am the baby !

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice… Enjoy it, dear☺

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      1. The Dutchess says:

        i make sure i do, thanx dear

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  6. sana001 says:

    Umm..the only child.. I do always wonder though, what it would have felt like to have a sibling.. Sometimes I crave for one and sometimes I feel relieved for not having one.. 😀
    I’m still wondering.. If I had an elder one, I would have been happy to have someone over me to take care of me..to pamper me.. It again, I wouldn’t want a control freak to always track my whereabouts.. Then the younger one..umm.. Yeah I would have loved to have one..small baby who would have grown up infront of my eyes.. Someone I would love to cuddle with sometimes..and play around with.. But again..I would have been really bad at handling their tantrums.. So you see, really confused at the thought of it..
    Actually I’m even confused whether I would have liked to have a brother or a sister, forget elder or younger.. 😛 😀
    Nice post though.. Got me thinking again.. 🙂

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Awww… Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sana☺

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  7. joymanda says:

    I’m the elder of my parents’ children and I like it that way. I can happily say that I’ve enjoyed more than my brother because it was after seven years that he joined me. I’m still enjoying and I’ll never wish to trade my position. That boy can be so annoying at times but it’s ok because I get to check him from time to time.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I see… Piesie papabi ☺

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      1. joymanda says:

        Hahaha papa paa

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