I believe most people love theater. The ability of the cast to capture the attention of the audience and make them believe that what they are portraying is actually real and make them feel emotions displayed on stage is a skill some people are blessed to have. The same way some motion pictures paint pictures so real that we feel the threat of danger, joy and sorrow as depicted in the film. I couldn’t help but laugh my head off when someone called in to a television show after an episode of a telenovela had aired and wished a character who had fallen sick a speedy recovery. I mean, how? Ah well, it is a means of escape and we all need that once in a while.
But it gets pretty disturbing when people deliberately spin stories and recreate their lives just so as to ‘fit in’ and gain some recognition. In an attempt to live out their perfect fantasies in their head, they go all out and tread on dangerous paths which doesn’t end well for them most of the time.
No one’s life is perfect; every successful person faces challenges from time to time. It’s how we grow. But covering up our misfortunes with illusions of a ‘perfect picture’ kind of life is harmful to one’s self. There are people going through abusive relationships and instead of seeking help and finding a way out, they come out and play the perfect couple as if they are being paid to act. Some students from humble homes enter the university and suddenly upgrade their status to be upper class, hence under constant pressure to keep up the act, spending excessively on things that don’t matter. Some even go to the extent of barring their parents from visiting them because they would feel embarrassed to be seen with them. How long can they keep it up? Even A-list Hollywood actors who have great on-screen chemistry can’t seem to make their marriages work in real life because they know there’s a limit to how long one can keep up with appearances, especially when it begins to hurt.
It is better to admit that there’s a challenge so that someone with a solution can help than to pretend that all is well and be dying inside. The opinions of others shouldn’t be a priority when it comes to our well-being. Cases of depression shouldn’t be taken lightly.
And for those who intentionally publish posts of being suicidal just get attention from people, it is equally dangerous because one may be tempted to take it a step further to dramatize the effect and might not be too lucky. The online audience would show their sympathy via text one minute and move on to other business. Your life is too precious to be someone’s channel where he can easily flip and forget.
Life isn’t fair; that’s real. Telling people you have a treehouse when there’s no tree in your neighborhood is just silly. Make believe is reserved for what you see or imagine in a play or a book. Get real and work towards the life you want to live. Don’t punish yourself with self-imposed lies.
Josephine Amoako © 2016