I had a good thing but didn’t think it was enough;
Because it seemed my neighbor had something better;
Her grass looked greener than mine;
So I abandoned mine and went after hers.
We fought over it and I won;
Whew! Thought I had it all.
But disappointingly, the grass began to wither;
What was wrong, I began to wonder;
Was I wrong about the grass or is it bad luck chasing me? The harder I tried, the quicker it withered;
Out of frustration, I gave up and went back to my grass;
Only to find someone else on it and it was greener than I left it!
That’s what jealousy does to us. It distorts our vision to make someone else’s possession seem more appealing than what we have. When it gets the better part of us, we stop working on what we have in our hands and go on Operation Sabotage Your Neighbor in full force. One may succeed in snatching away the object of envy and later realize it wasn’t as good as he thought it would be. This way, two lawns get destroyed; the one you abandoned and the one you snatched but couldn’t sustain it. Most of the time, life tries to pay us back by making someone else pick up the remains of what we abandoned and making them blossom…very much to our loss.
Thanks (not really) to our human nature, feelings of jealousy isn’t alien to anyone living on planet earth. Right from childhood, we start to display this green-eyed monster in us toward our siblings and we see them as competitors for our parents’ attention. We outgrow it and realize it was just ‘childish’ behavior. But we end up showing it again towards our friends who get some sort of breakthrough before we do. We deprive ourselves of the joy we should share with our loved ones and the peace of mind that we would otherwise enjoy.
As long as the fingers remain different in length, some people would achieve their dreams before others. Everyone can’t get the job, promotion, scholarship, life partner, new house, baby at the same time. Wasting time and energy envying someone doesn’t hasten the clock of your breakthrough. It actually halts it and you find yourself stuck in a rocking chair-constantly moving but going nowhere.
“Oh, I’m so jealous! isn’t complimentary so let’s quit saying ” that with the excuse that we actually meant to say, “I’m so happy for you!” You might as well say the latter. Because whatever you say has the power to manifest itself. How pitiful to prophesy such ugly sentiments about yourself and see them come to pass!
Avoid seeing life through the lens of jealousy. It demeans what you have and paints an illusion of how great someone else’s life is. Things are not always what they seem. All that glitters is not gold.
Josephine Amoako © 2016