We all have them; as children, parents, friends, business partners, couples, public officials, citizens, neighbors…the list is endless. It is our right to have them as human beings; and it is also our responsibility to see to it that they are met.
Children expect their parents to give them the best in life and they are expected to use the opportunity given them wisely so as to earn themselves an advantageous place in their future life. Parents expect their wards to grow up to be responsible and likewise they are expected to raise up their kids in a conducive environment to instill good morals and a sense of responsibility in them.
Public officials expect people to perform their civic responsibilities like paying taxes so they can run the state and they are also expected to use the taxpayers’ money judiciously to solve the urgent issues of the society. Couples expect some level of affection, respect and support from each other and since they are mirroring each other, one’s expectation should be demonstrated to the other in action. But in the world as we know it, expectations are not always met.
It is said that as long as there are expectations, there are bound to be disappointments. People are bound to be disappointed when others exercise their right to have their expectations met but refuse to do their part to reciprocate the favor. And it is also advised that if you don’t want to be disappointed, then it is prudent to lower your expectations. I kind of agree with that when it comes to people.
I don’t feel let down that much when people don’t reciprocate a similar level of generosity or concern toward me because I don’t really expect them to in the first place. And I don’t keep on giving much of myself to people I care about with the hope that they would realize my effort and return the favor. I do so because that’s who I am and I feel happy and fulfilled doing just that regardless of if I’d get to be the recipient too. I’d rather have expectations concerning set goals like the progression of a career. This is because whether these expectations would be met or not depends mainly on me and my efforts.
It is good to have expectations; it gives you a sense of purpose. So by all means, have them. The trick is managing them well so you don’t have to undergo a lot of damage control dealing with disappointments. Do your part and hopefully things will work out. Sometimes they won’t but that’s okay. At least, you’d learn a lesson from the experience.
Don’t live your life via the ‘anything goes’ principle and expect a seat at the high table. Take your life seriously and you will see your expectations taking form. Dealing with people is more complicated than signing a contract and abiding by the terms. People no matter how well they mean, will fall short of your expectations at one point in time. But it is up to you not to forego your part for your own sake.
To whom much is given, much is expected…Consider those who have invested in your life; have their expectations about you been met? I guess we all have work to do.
Josephine Amoako © 2016