Would You Rather #17: Have many Good Friends or one very Best Friend?


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Friends! Where would we be without them? They build us up, encourage, criticize, support and believe in us. Some test and push us to the wall. Like seeds, some end up being bad ones and they betray us and leave us broken and scarred. But through the hurt and disappointment, they still leave us with lessons worth learning.

When it comes to platonic relationships, some people prefer to spread their nets in order to know so many people while others are content with just handful of friends. The out-going type loves to enrich his life by gaining experience of meeting and interacting people from diverse backgrounds. The introspective type prefers to surround herself with people she has a lot in common with but also with some divergence to keep things interesting.

Like every coin, there are two sides to each choice; everything has its pros and cons. Spreading your net ensures that you don’t run out of friends in any point in time. No matter how many move out of town, get married and move on, drift away or even die (worst case scenario), one would still have a number of people he can count on as friends. When one has quite a number of friends, it is easier to place them in categories and relate to them according to specific needs.

You have friends you can go to when you need some serious advice and would set you straight in all bluntness; some you can count on for comfort, some you can hang out and have fun with and some who are rich in human networking and would link you up with someone up there. This way you don’t burden one or a couple of friends with everything that goes on in your life. Your life doesn’t feel the impact heavily when some friends are no longer on your contact list. The one big disadvantage of having too many friends is entrusting your business (issues, I mean) in the hands of so many people. You get an altercation with some of them and you risk getting all your dirty laundry out there. And social media makes such revenge all easier to your disadvantage.

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On the flip side, having one best friend is like having a brother or sister from another mother. He/she basically becomes family. You share your joys, fears and sorrows with him/her. You two grow up to become soulmates somewhat. No matter where life takes you, you know you have that one great friend who always has your back. You fight and hurt each other, you make up and forgive each other. That friend earns a permanent place in your heart and nothing can evict him or her from there. Because this one person would get to know you almost completely, one has to believe that he is trustworthy to know him completely.

I don’t have many good friends; just a few and I am fine with that. My personality doesn’t allow for so many people invading my space so I prefer to keep them as acquaintances and relate to them as such. It is an undeniable fact that it gets lonely sometimes especially when we get to that phase in life when we have to take our own paths so might not be in each other’s lives the way it used to be but I’ve come to accept that as part of life. Many friends imply more influence on your decisions and values and I don’t think I can handle that much so I’d rather comfortably settle for one best friend.

Mine is amazing by the way and I thank God for her life every day. She has made me grow up in ways I would never have been able to on my own and I don’t know where and who I would be today if God hadn’t made us cross paths.

Do you have or prefer many good friends than one very close one? Or you have that special one you consider family? Kindly share your thoughts.

Josephine Amoako © 2016

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23 Comments Add yours

  1. KJoyWrites says:

    I would rather have 1 very close friend instead of a few good ones.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Good to know, KJoy😃

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  2. AtimMercy says:

    One very best friend!. Like you said, our friends influence some of our decisions…. I would rather have One do that, than 10!..

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I agree 👍 thanks for sharing your thoughts, Mercy 😃

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  3. joymanda says:

    Lol I don’t even have a best friend. I don’t really have friends actually because everyone eventually screws up and leaves me disappointed. I remember I asked my mum once why all my friends hurt and disappoint me. She told me I’d get good ones when the right time comes. The right time came in my final year in university. I have just a few friends I can fall on now and I’m OK with them. They don’t number up to five but they’re cool like that.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I see… I don’t think mine are up to five too but it’s cool. Good friends are a gift from God

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  4. Liz says:

    A few good friends for me!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Good to know! Thanks for passing by, Liz😃

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  5. Pauline says:

    Reblogged this on Uniquely Designed Individuals and commented:
    Joseyphina wrote:”Friends! Where would we be without them? They build us up, encourage, criticize, support and believe in us. Some test and push us to the wall. Like seeds, some end up being bad ones and they betray us and leave us broken and scarred. But through the hurt and disappointment, they still leave us with lessons worth learning.”

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  6. piratepatty says:

    I am not big on having a lot of “friends”. I know a lot of people and we talk on line quite a bit, but I’m fine with my 2 best friends, both guys, who I know would drop anything they were doing if I needed them and vice versa. Having many sisters ensures that I’ll always have a friend!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice, Patty! ✋

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Honored. Thanks 😃

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  7. I must say that I’d rather have lots of good friends. Not because I’m focused on popularity or being on the in crowd or anything (please, if you met me than you’d know that I’m just the opposite) but what if you and your best friend got into a fight? You’d have no one else to turn to, and having a lot of friends means that there can always be someone there.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Yeah, I agree with that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😃

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  8. LightWriters says:

    One very best friend…quality over quantity… 😀

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I like that! Thanks for sharing. 😃

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  9. Ufuomaee says:

    I’m weird in that both are appealing to me. But in the absense of one true confidant, I keep many friends. Since am open anyway, it’s not hard to share my heart with them all. But still, I don’t make friends easily because I have strong opinions and I’m also reclusive. I’m very much in my head a lot, so people who are very sociable will find me boring!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Nice to know you more, Ufuomaee 😃

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  10. I’d much rather one good friend to be honest. I have had friends and a lot of them too and today, none of those friendships remain – reason being a crowd of friends is bound to bring about unnecessary drama. As I’ve matured, I’ve figured having that one person who is there through thick and thin is probably the best for me.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Miss Felistas 😃

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