Musings of a ‘Good Guy’


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Most girls ‘complain’ that good guys are hard to find;
As if we were some sort of rare species;
But we are right there with you;
Helping with your heavy luggage whiles putting on a genial smile;
Showering you with compliments because we believe in building you up;
Treating you with respect because you deserve nothing less;
But some way somehow, we are never good enough for you;
(Oh, he’s just a good friend, he’s like a brother)
Never an option to be something more; maybe your last resort.

Because if we were, why would you bypass us and jump into the car of the ‘bad guy’?
We hear all the reasons you give: they make you feel special; they are not so ‘spiritual’;
They have the class; they’ve got the swag and they are both rough and smooth;
Since when did being gentlemen become a thing of the past?

But then it’s our arms you run back into when they break your heart over and over again;
It’s our shoulders you lean into and cry your hearts out when you get hurt;
How come we are qualified to be your comforters and not your lovers?
We tenderly nurse your wounded hearts and gather the smashed pieces of your heart
Only to find you back into their arms when you’ve gotten yourself together.

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You get treated like fantasy objects because you let them;
And you get shocked when things don’t work out;
When the length of your skirt is even shorter than the time you spent together;
Every fantasy turns into boredom when duly satisfied;
Why settle to be someone’s ‘for-the-meantime’ when you were created to be a person’s ‘forever’?
We treat you like the gem you are but surprisingly you find that uncomfortable;
Could it be because you think devaluing yourself meant being trendy and keeping up with the times?

We won’t talk dirty to you because you are worth more than that;
Our eyes don’t linger in lust after you because we appreciate the inner beauty more;
We won’t emotionally blackmail you in greasing our beds to remain faithful;
Because promiscuity doesn’t make a man, it only makes him less of it;
And besides, what makes them the standard?
If you want to know if anyone is deserving of you;
Try this:

Compare him to Jesus;
And find out where he falls short;
We are not bragging but I’m sure that we’d be way up the scale than your ‘classy’ kind of guy;
If you believe Jesus is the Lover of your soul,
Then be rest assured that your heart would be guarded with all due diligence;
We’ll help you become the best version of yourself and not tear you down to gratify our ego;
Yeah, we might be too ‘churchy’ but trust us, we are your best choice.

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We are honored to hand our hankies to you when you cry;
And to make you smile when you are down;
But we’d appreciate if you’d take us out of the ‘friend zone’;
We are not ‘too nice’ to be something more;
We are more than capable of loving you just the way you deserve;
Because we have tapped it from the Source of Love Himself;
If the church is God’s bride, then allow yourself to be ours;
And we’ll show you what true love is all about.

Signed,

Yournicefriends

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32 Comments Add yours

  1. mimispassion says:

    Another great one. enjoyed every bit of it.
    keep it doing😃😃✌

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      1. mimispassion says:

        😃😃

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  2. mimispassion says:

    Another great one. enjoyed every bit of it.
    keep it coming😃😃✌

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  3. Makaitah says:

    Every good guy is in the friend zone!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Lol… I know, right?

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  4. joymanda says:

    Lol aww. Our ‘nice’ friends

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  5. lhytyl_w says:

    Josephine you’re a great writer😘

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Oh thank you. ☺

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  6. lgmiriam says:

    Mmmm…Nice piece…but very controversial as well

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  7. tesern says:

    Beautiful piece. Really inspired keep it coming

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you for passing by. I appreciate it. ☺

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  8. IAmDonovan says:

    Girls don’t have to date anyone if they don’t want to…Regardless of how guys identify themselves, if the girl isn’t interested in them or doesn’t want to risk the relationship, then that’s her business. And ‘nice guys’ don’t have to stay in a relationship (friendship or otherwise) where they’re not happy. If all feelings are admitted and emotions aren’t mutual then that’s tough but ‘nice guys’ don’t stay in a friendship and think they’re all that just because they’re being a good friend with ulterior motives. That’s manipulative and not really ‘nice’.
    I understand the point, and I agree that there are a lot of nice guys in love with girls who go for not-so-nice guys and it sucks to have unrequited love, but to generalize that there are all these ‘nice guys’ being ignored or ‘friendzoned’ by females is somewhat silly and to shame all females with male friends is very controversial.
    The piece is well written and I can see how many males have this opinion, and it is even valid in some cases, but it’s this entitlement idea that is unsettling. I mean no offence, I’m just sharing my opinion on the topic.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      I appreciate your opinion and I find your perspective very enlightening. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you. I certainly will.

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        Thanks.

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      3. joseyphina says:

        My email address is on the ‘contact me’ page

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  10. I just found your email on your profile. Thanks.

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  11. Fredy_G says:

    The piece is on point n I totally agree with u Eventho it shouldn’t be generalised but MAJORITY of girls behave as such!!

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  12. Wonderful one!!!!!!!!
    Keep it up!!!!!!!!

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    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you, Sam! ☺

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  13. iamsleeky says:

    I can relate 😶. Great piece though

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Thank you and it is well☺

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  14. iKomusana says:

    Hahahaha am sure the brothers over in the friend zone appreciate you for putting in a good word for them…
    You gave me something to think about.. *winks*
    Good job

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  15. Excellencial Betty Boatemaa says:

    Nice post. God bless you!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks, Betty! ☺ and welcome to Joseyphina’s World

      Liked by 1 person

  16. Adjonyor Richard says:

    Nice piece

    Liked by 1 person

    1. joseyphina says:

      Thanks, Richard ☺

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