One of the many trends that make campus life so interesting is the various hook-ups which seem to initiate the freshmen into campus. It is nothing short of a cute sight to see students walking in pairs to and fro the lecture halls. And for those who walk on wheels, you’d find them waiting in their cars waiting for their beloveds to come out of the lecture halls.
It seems the university campuses have become a trial for adult relationships; where students try out how well they would fare as someone’s lover/companion. Freshly baked out of the oven of high schools where the only means of communication have been via letters, weekly phone calls and occasional visits, the whole new experience of having your loved ones nearby is so thrilling. And with the influence of the telenovelas which have become a viewing sensation across all age groups recently, the student populace especially the ladies have the fantasy of how perfect their relationships should play out. But unfortunately, reality presents less-than-perfect circumstances.
It is no secret that campus relationships are super expensive especially when trying to handle a high-class, I-want-it-all kind of gal. Apart from the credit used to call your partner at regular times, the guy usually provides the credit for his lady to call him (but more often than not, she uses it to call everyone than the buyer). It is also the guy’s burden to provide two-course meals for lunch and/or supper with snacks in-between the hours. If the guy wants his gal to always look chic, then he must find a way to cough up ‘hair-do allowance’ every fortnight and mind you, the salon is nothing short of top-notch.
And for the average campus girl, she shows her love by preparing food and stocking her guy’s fridge with it. And when it comes to sleeping arrangements, it is the roommates who suffer because one has to endure having the opposite sex not only spending the night but almost the whole day as well.
Campus couples always have something to do or somewhere to go together. From studying together to watching school play productions, they are seen together so much so that they begin to look alike. One can literally see their ears elongating and their heads swelling when they are given the ‘you-were-meant-to-be’ compliment.
As rosy as the relationships look, most of them don’t last long. Those with the longer time span are those with the almost countless number of breakup sessions. So the average dating-allergic student would graduate leaving behind a long trail of exes. Most students have no qualms about moving on immediately after a breakup. Perhaps it’s because the campus is a big pool of dating materials so whether you dropped someone or you’re dropped, you can pick yourself up and find the next available person.
And more than half of the relationships which make it to the end of the four-year programme sadly end on rocks a few months after graduation. Some attribute it to the game-changing lifestyle that one has to adapt to which makes it inconvenient to continue. Each party is occupied with work and less or no time is given to social activities. They finally crack under pressure and the once promising relationship becomes a distant memory.
So what makes campus relationships so fickle? Is it because the primary reason of finding a partner is for temporary companionship and thus expires after they are handed their certificates? Maybe, maybe not. But why spend so much money, time and energy on someone that would show you the door or in a relationship which has no future?
This phenomenon lives on perhaps because people engage in such relationships so they would have stories to tell when asked to narrate their campus life story.
Whether it’s for the time being or has the future in mind, at least ensure that you influence your partner positively and are influenced in the same way so that many years to come, when your name is mentioned, it would be out of a fond memory and not a bitter one.