Everyone at one point in time has both in his/her life; sometimes they happen to be the same person. The thought of one brings with it a sense of warmth, safety and a unique sort of communion devoid of words.
A friend is someone you can talk to about almost anything without having to feel self-conscious. The one who makes you smile with the least effort. And the one who you can be your true self around without the fear of being judged. The mood around such a person is usually calm and serene-there maybe no rapid heart beating but it feels comfortable as long as he/she is around.
A lover is the one you particularly make sure you look good for. Someone whose company you cherish so much that it feels like nothing and no one exist except you two. You hold on to every word he/she says as if your life depended on it. The thrill of being around such a one keeps your heart at such a constant high such that you hear it pounding in your ears. The mood can be tense or tranquil.
If asked to choose who to spend forever with, some would choose the friend because although it may not have the thrills, it has the promise of lasting long. And such hope of potential and consistency is all that some require to take the big step. For others, the thrill of always having your adrenaline pumping is enough for them to last a lifetime. If it were to wane, they would find a way to rekindle it.
Amazingly, the perfect picture of being a friend and lover is painted by the love demonstrated by the Son of God who came to die for us. He’s the one you can bare your soul to without any reservations and yet He makes you feel so special-someone worth laying down His life for.
Obviously, finding both the friend and lover in a person is the best choice. So if you have a friend, try and find the lover in him/her and see if it completes you. And if you have the lover, search out the friend in him/her and your joy will be complete. Someone you feel comfortable and thrilled around at the same time.
Only those who have experienced the love of Christ would understand this complete friend-lover kind of relationship. As my good friend rightly puts it, when you get your relationship with God right, your relationship with your fellow becomes easy.