Forgive and forget- one philosophy we all love to live by. Forgetting the past helps us to let go of all the horrors of the past and gives us a fresh start for the present to prepare for the future. Forgetting helps us to heal from the many wounds we get inflicted with in this journey of life.
But forgetting like fire can be a good servant but a dangerous master. Forgetting how you got to where you are right now by someone’s help (whether by putting in a good word or by deed) can lead to big conflicts. Ingratitude is one human trait that doesn’t go down well by anyone (especially when you went out of your way to help someone).
We often hear not to bite the fingers that feed you because those fingers could take everything back from you. But that’s life. People are the humblest and most polite when they need your help but after they’ve found their feet, they throw it all in your face like your help was not necessary.
How do we deal with people like that? We have to live with that because the truth is, they are everywhere! They are our children, siblings, other relatives, friends, and colleagues… any human connection we may have.
People- difficult but necessary to live with. No one is an island, that’s true; but it gets to that point in your life that you want to stay away from any other human being and be alone.
The pains born out of the pangs of ingratitude tend to make people selfish and unwilling to give or share. Why should I help someone who would later turn against me? It would be better if I kept my help to myself.
Ingratitude can embitter people to their very core-almost to the point of losing every fiber of feeling towards others. It breeds sentiments like constant mistrust and suspicion of others.
Ingratitude will always be part of our experiences with people but that shouldn’t stop us from doing good to others.
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
Gal 6:9 (KJV).
Let’s make generosity something we have to do for ourselves and not for the ones at the receiving end. Let’s see it as a seed we need to sow in order to reap a bountiful harvest of blessings.
Appreciation is a trait not common to everyone and that’s an unfortunate truth. The fact that people openly mock the life of Jesus on earth and His death on the cross is good example enough.
People may not appreciate your good deeds but your Father who sees your good heart will surely make it your while.
So faint not; your harvest is almost ready.